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I'm 29 year old, fabulous and feisty female from Nigeria, who has found love, fun and happiness in life and has a plan of getting dozens of stamps on her passport. Welcome to my blog. Feel free to read archived posts...they are pretty interesting as well. I would also appreciate any comments you may have in whatever arena. The more the merrier!
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You already know Mission: Impossible 3 is coming to DVD on Mission Monday, October 30th, 2006. Now there’s an amazing first person shooter M:I3 game online, where you can take on the role of an elite IMF agent!
In the M:I3 game, you must train and then go on a mission to kill a murderous arms dealer. The goal of the game is for users to kill all of the arms dealer’s henchman and then the arms dealer himself, while not getting shot themselves and racking up the highest accuracy possible. In the third level, the challenge ramps up as you must avoid killing civilians as well.
Check out the game here: http://www.missionimpossible.com/game/
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I'm reading this book right now by David Zinczenko, the editor-in-chief of Men's Health magazine. The book analyses a survey done on 5,000 people on what their views are on men, love, relationships and sex."In order to get inside the minds of men, Zinczenko commissioned an exclusive poll conducted by the national polling firm Harris Interactive, and surveyed more than 5,000 men and women, asking them some intensely intimate questions—and eliciting some remarkably candid answers. In the survey men talked about love, insecurity, guy’s nights out, what they secretly want in the bedroom, their biggest gripes with relationships, and what women can do and say to make them happier. They also confessed the little things that destroy relationships, revealed what they are scared of and nervous about, and—most of all—they came clean with the truth about why they love and cherish women. The poll also found that while men and women in fact have extraordinarily similar desires, they have extraordinarily dissimilar communication styles thus making it hard for men and women to find happiness together."Okay, I'm not done with the book, just half way through, but I've read enough to rave about it to all of you. I've called all my girlfriends as well to share the love. Go get this book right now! It's an easy yet extremely scintillating read. On every single page, I found something that made me either laugh out loud or nod in full understanding.
Say This, Not That!Every single topic we've talked about on this blog is covered, as well as subjects that are considered too intimate to share. Like how do guys really feel about penis size? And why do they have to play Joe the toolman when they don't know how to use a hammer? Why do they miss the toilet? What's the deal with guys & cheating? How does he really feel about your body? How can you tell if he's over his ex?
Say This: I'm so glad to be finally home!
Not: Work was awful and I've been in a bad mood all day
Because: Like you, he wants reassurace that you're happy to see him. (awwww!)
Male Mysteries Revealed: 54% of men say family is what defines them the most.
What It Means When:...He's still friends with his ex more than a year later
Take it as a positive that he's a good man, not as a negative that she's a threat. If their breakup didn't cause permanent damage, then chancess are that, one, he's mature enough to let relationships eveolve' two, he probably treated her well during their time together' and three, he didn't screw around on her. All good.
Wondering Woman asks: Why doesn't he go down on me more often?
If you lie back quieter than a college library on Friday night, he's not going to know what you make of oral sex. Groan, moan, yell "more" then tell him later that you're dying for a repeat performance. Once you open your mouth about what you like, he'll open his.
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Director J. J. Abrams (“Lost”,” “Alias”) brings his unique blend of action and drama to the billion-dollar franchise. Super-spy Ethan Hunt (Tom Cruise) has retired from active duty to train new IMF agents. But he is called back into action to confront the toughest villain he’s ever faced – Owen Davian (Philip Seymour Hoffman), an international weapons and information provider with no remorse and no conscience. Hunt assembles his team – his old friend Luther Strickell (Ving Rhames), transportation expert Declan (Jonathan Rhys Meyers), background operative Zhen (Maggie Q), and fresh recruit Lindsey (Keri Russell) – to travel the globe pursuing Davian and rescue Hunt’s love, Julia (Michelle Monaghan).
Before you sneer that I should have seen it in the theatres...yeah I know. However, I did catch it first chance I got, in all it's blazing glory. I just have to say that for the whole ENTIRE movie (well except for a quiet 2 minutes) I was at the edge of my seat. This movie should really be named Action Possible because it blew me away.
Alias lovers will be able to pick up the talented mastery that JJ Abrams put in to pull this off. There where alot of moments that I was having Alias flashbacks especially with the super spy theme that it had. If Mission Impossible was the foundation that built the franchise, MI:2 was the filler that tied it all in, then MI:3 totally set the roof on fire. This is one of those sequels that just keeps getting better and better.
Without giving any of the plot away, the story was utterly riveting, fully captivating and action packed with all kinds of fight scenes and of course technologically advanced weaponry. You got to see how those masks are made on site and Hunt finally found a criminal that he couldn’t easily outwit. There are plot twists all over the place and the main characters were multi-layered.
The actors did an awesome job, Philip Seymour Hoffman was the perfect villiam, Ving Rhames was his usual smart cracking sidekick, Laurence Fishburne proved once again that he’s not just Morpheus and Cruise proved effortlessly why he’s still box office gold.. The supporting characters did their thing as well, Maggie Q kicked major butt in a fight scene (it’s in the deleted scenes…why???)
This 2 disc edition is super packed with juicy commentaries, behind the scenes footage, 8 featurettes that explore everything from the creation of the mission franchise to a montage dedicated to Tom Cruise and his M-I ways.
So…is there going to be a Mission Impossible 4? That I don’t know, however if this really is the end for the Ethan Hunt saga he went out with a bang!
If you liked the other Mission Impossible movies, shows like Alias or other action movies like i-Robot, Matrix etc, then this is definitely another one for your collection.
MI3 comes out on DVD on October 30. Grab your copy:)
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Thanks for the submission!Not likely the funniest story in the universe, but here it is!It was an exciting flight. We had met online and had chatted daily for several months. I was finally on my way to meet him. The hard part these days about landing is that there's no one there to meet you at the gate. The long trek from the plane to the point of meeting is torturous, especially if you're travelling internationally! But at that final moment, the chemistry was exceptional. He smiled, took my hand and led me to the taxi. We made out on the way to the hotel. It was steamy, to be sure and the night in the hotel was sensational, including the big private jacuzzi!
The next day, we went to his house. We had sex on every surface in his apartment. Day and night. For four days. One afternoon, he was paying some online bills and I came up behind him, reaching down and stroking him through his soft sweat pants. He hardened immediately. I swiveled his chair around, knelt down, pulled out his manhood and began licking and sucking. It didn't take long for me to notice I had some lint in my mouth. Now it's never easy to tactfully remove lint or pubic hair from your mouth whilst giving a blow job. But I'm pretty good at it. I soon realized that I was having to remove quite a bit of this lint as his cock was fairly covered with it! I just started laughing and said, "Okay, I can't do this!" He laughed so hard. He explained that these were new sweat pants and going commando in them was probably not a good idea! I tell you, lint can create quite a barrier on a man's cock!After that, when we would talk online or on the phone, he would sometimes just say "pffftt... pffttttt...." and we'd both laugh, knowing exactly what he meant.
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Last Easter he told me that he was really into me and wanted to be my boyfriend. I freaked out and went cold for a couple weeks but then this summer when I went back I admitted to him that I was feeling him too and have been for a while now. His baby mama still kinda in the picture but that's not the issue. We're tryna work on something real. We get on like a house on fire, really complement one another. Anyway, we been on a couple dates and we are in touch all the time, talk on the phone more than once a day, emails, etc.I read a relationship book a few months ago that stated that it takes about 5 seconds of meeting someone to know whether or not you are attracted to them. Attraction cannot be forced, no matter how much you want to be attracted to someone, if the sparks aren't there, they just aren't there.
The problem is that I am finding it very hard to be affectionate or intimate with him. I remember the first time he kissed me, I burst out laughing, and I did that a couple times after as well and he played hurt and made a joke out of it. I apologized and he said that when I am ready he'll be there waiting. We've discussed it and he thinks that maybe I'm scared of committing or getting hurt again or that I still don't trust him because he's still dealing with his baby mama but I just DONT KNOW WHAT MY PROBLEM IS! We're stuck in limbo and he is being such a patient... gentleman bout it! I am very pissed off at myself because it's not what I am like usually and its quite the opposite of what I wana do to him.
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"She was the first girl I loved so much that I would sacrifice my well being for her love and for something that precious to fall out of your hands is just something of a feeling hard to describe. She was the kind of person you always look forward to see whenever you're happy, sad, lonely or just need someone to talk to. She wasn't just a gf... she was a friend and someone you could talk comfortably to, without leaving out any details to save your pride.Brad hon, breakups are hard. There is no simple solution to getting over someone. There is no way to go around it, you just have to go through it. The emotions you have are valid, and the hurt is there to tell you something...You are still alive. You are still breathing. You are still here, and you aren't going to let her leaving you break you. Even though your life and relationship was closely tangled up with hers, you have to do alot of severance. Remember, you had a life before she saucily walked into it---so claim it back!
It's been3about 7 weeks since the break up and I thought I got over her but everything I do reminds me of her. Everyplace I go I think to myself, "she would of loved to have seen this or been here". I can't get her out of my head. There's still a part of me that wants to hold on to her and I don't like it. I WANT to move on but can't. I've tried everything from telling my self that she's a bitch, she'll regret it, I'm better off without her... everything people have recommended and they just can't seem to work. Her love has put a dent in my heart that I can't fix. And ever since the breakup I feal insecure about love, the way I look and everything about my personality.
Maybe I just feel lonely, or maybe I feel lost but I can't look at a girl the same way anymore. I just feel tangled in my heart, as if I have nothing to look forward to in life anymore. Please get back to me and tell me what you think I should do."
Continuing the story of the original film, Sara (Izabella Miko) follows her dream and becomes a student at Juilliard. As she is excels and becomes a star pupil, Sara becomes torn between her love for traditional ballet and her passion for the urban street rhythms of hip-hop, complicated further by her new love, hip-hop musician Miles (Columbus Short). When pushed to make a choice, will she follow the path of the tried and true or will she take a risk and dance into uncharted territory?
I absolutely loved this movie. I didn’t think I would, being that it was a low budget sequel and none of the original characters from the first movie were even in it, however the director filled all the holes with an interesting plot that is strong enough to stand on it’s own. You can actually watch this movie without having even seen the first one…there was a short scene that had enough background information to build up the main character Sara. The movie picks up a few months after the first one left off, with Sara moving to Juilliard to study ballet and become a prima ballerina.
The dance scenes were HOT! There is so much music and dancing here from classical ballet to urban hip hop dance. Sara danced her ass off! She rocked both types of dance hardcore, I found myself actually believing that Isabella Miko could succeed in true life in both. Music flowed through the whole movie with a beautiful tapestry of hip hop woven into every prominent scene. The intergration of ballet with hip hop was amazing---a fusion of moves that I never would have expected. The conflicts between the characters were predictable enough, however there was a plot twist that left me actually surprised.The main characters were pretty well-developed and secondary characters had enough color to bring something more to the film. Ne-Yo had a small role (thankfully he didn’t ruin it.) Her roomie is a riot! There were some moments in the movie that were contrived/destroyed by bad acting but overall the actors pretty much nailed their parts. Miles’ apartment was off the chain, I want that apartment!
The extra stuff in the DVD was pretty tight too. There’s an interview with the actors/principals I found out that filming was done in 21 days…21 days people! Considering everything that was done, they did an amazing job. If you are a fan of the original, or movies like Take the Lead, Honey or Step Up, then this is another one for you. The DVD came out October 10 so snag a copy!
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Beginning in October, when women (or men!) buy a box of Elexa condoms, we will give a box to women’s shelters and clinics, because no woman can afford to go uninformed and unprotected.
For every box of Elexa condoms purchased from now until December, the makers of Trojan will donate a box of Elexa condoms to Gifts In Kind - a minimum of 1 million condoms – to help protect women in need. Gifts in Kind, the leader in the field of product philanthropy, will distribute these condoms to women across the United States who are at risk of STDs and unintended pregnancy and who may not have access to or the means for which to buy condoms.
Keeping Women SexySmart
In the U.S. alone, seven out of ten sex acts happen without a condom. As a result, the transmission of STDs is growing every year. The Elexa brand, from the makers of Trojan condoms, is focused on not only supplying women with the necessary tools, but also with educating them and encouraging sexually active women at risk of STDs and unintended pregnancy to use condoms more frequently.
To stay SexySmart, we encourage women (and men!) to log online to communicate with a variety of sexual advisors and their peers, ask questions and educate themselves about their sexual health:
Join our Cause to help stop the spread of STDs in women.
Together we can make a difference. By protecting ourselves, we can also protect each other- uniting to eradicate STDs in women.
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She's also known, from the beginning, that in approximately a year I'll be selling my house, quitting my job, and traveling solo around the world for at least a year. She also knows that when I return, I may not even come back to the same city or state.Oh boy. No matter which way you slice this---Jenny is in for a heartbreak. And you are going to hand deliver it to her on a silver platter. You've been seeing her for 3 months now, and she's invested into this relationship. Especially when you started having sex with her. Great sex at that. Remember no matter how casual we ladies plan to be, once sex is introduced in the relationship, our hearts eventually follow along. The relationship has grown beyond a casual 'friends with benefits' situation the moment you guys started acting all 'couple-y'.
That said, we've met many of each others' friends, we walk down the street holding hands, we're monogamous, and we do a sundry of other "standard" relationship-type things. I don't have any problem with any of this. So where's the question? Last weekend, amidst the throes of passion, she snuck out a little "I love you" in between, well, other sounds. She's never said it to me before, in or our of the bedroom, and her vocalizations during the act are typically ...ah, less well-formed, to put it politely. I didn't give any indication that I heard it (although it surprised me a bit), and I don't even know if she remembers saying it.
I'm curious as to what other girls think of this, given the picture I've painted. Does it sound likely it was just a reference to the activities at hand? Or perhaps that she's suppressing some growing affection, and it just slipped out? The only other times I've ever heard "I love you" during sex was in more serious, and longer-lived, relationships -- is "I love you" in the general sex-grunt-lexicon for you, dear reader, or is it does it retain a reserved station even then?
I believe communication is the best policy, but I'm interested to get some third-party perspectives before I broach the subject with her. I just don't want her to have any unrealistic expectations: I love what we have right now, but after two years and one round-the-world trip, I'm certainly not going to be the same person I am today.
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When I posted the “Interracial Dating and Relationships Survey” on my blog, Vixen encouraged the readers here to go take it. And I promised that when I got enough responses, I’d come back here FIRST and share the results!
Well, over 100 people (ages 16-58, 85% women, 15% men) have participated in the survey so far. The majority of participants (48%) described themselves as “Caucasian/White,” followed by “African/Caribbean/Black” (26.8%), and “Asian” (18%). All other races were represented at 5% and less.
Now, depending on what you personally think of people from different races getting together, the results of the survey so far could sound like good news……or bad news.
What’s clear is that the majority of people who have taken the survey have had some interracial dating and mating experience. In fact, 90% have been out on a date with a person from a different race, and 62% have been in a serious relationship with a person from a different race.
What’s so tempting to people about the idea of interracial dating?
While way over half of the participants in the survey reported that they didn’t even notice race -- and it was just about being attracted to an individual -- a majority of people agreed that the following is a major reason for being open to looking for love outside their own race:
“Finding love is hard enough without limiting my dating pool to people from my own race.”
Speaking of what’s tempting to people about the idea of interracial dating, how about alleged differences in sexual prowess based on race? On the survey, more than 20% of people said they believed that when it comes to being good at sex, certain races have a “definite advantage” over others.
That 20% was a bit higher than I expected, and I wish now that I had asked WHICH races they believe have that advantage…….and why!
And then, as one woman candidly described in her write-in answer:
“I get bored and sometimes men outside my race are most interesting and adventurous.”
So, how about the reasons that would stop people from getting involved with someone outside their race?
Although 41% of the survey participants reported that nothing would stop them from getting into an interracial relationship, two of the most common concerns were disapproval from family/friends, and being used by the other person simply for an “interracial experience.”
I was also interested in one woman’s write-in response to the question, “What might stop you from getting into an interracial relationship?” Here’s what she wrote:
“Relationships are hard enough as it is -- why add to it? But maybe that’s an excuse…”
So…….what do you think. Is that an excuse?
And thanks again to Vixen for promoting this survey, and for those of you who expressed your opinions on it already! It’s still available for people to take at SmartatLove.com.
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Yep, it's official, I'm now in my late 20s...no matter how hard I try to cling to the young 20s. It's a good thing I guess, living a whole whopping 'nother year. Thanks to everyone that has been such an invaluable source of encouragement and support this year both in real life and on the blogosphere.Labels: Announcements
For each of us, our tendencies might be quite similar, more rigid or perhaps more lenient. But if anything, please ladies, let's just be AWARE at all times. Keep your sixth sense on and alert. You can never, ever be too safe when it comes to sexual predators, rape & assault. Always have a friend to watch your back if you know you are going to be excessively drinking that night and put your safety first at all times.How do I take responsibility for my sexual safety? I lock my door behind me. Every time. Laundry, run to the mailbox - every time. I work on clear communication about sexual situations. And let's face it, anyone trying to say that I picked them up in a bar and had consensual sex is going to have a hell of a time selling it because of who I am. That works for me.
If I'm meeting someone I don't know personally and a friend can't vouch, then I meet them somewhere. I don't get into cars, and I don't take men home from bars. I certainly don't put up personal ads to "hook up" with strange people in strange places. I've never even met a potential roommate or sold someone a piece of furniture without having someone else present, and if I had to I would at least send all available information to a friend and schedule a safety call.
If someone gets violent with you - and I certainly hope that never happens - absolutely, they are at fault.
But me, I make it my business to lessen the odds in my favor.
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