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Monday, January 28, 2008


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The Game Plan: Review

I've seen Dwayne "the Rock" Johnson (Kingman) in alot of movies, and this one just proves that he's gotten much better (must have taken some acting classes). The story is set in Boston, and it starts off a little typical, big sports hero going through his arrogant and glitzy life. Elvis plays a prominent role in the backdrop, with pictures, movies and songs all over the place. It doesn't start getting funny until we meet lil Miss Peyton, his newly found daughter, a young lady that proves to be the heart of the plot, and will win over your heart. She's bossy, manipulative and a total brainiac, the perfect foil for his arrogant self. She takes over his home, creating chaos with glitter everywhere she went. I don't want to spoil the plot, but Peyton comes in like a whirlwind.

The conflicts and trials they go through as a new father and daughter developing a relationship definitely set the tone for a lot of comedic laughs. (Who knew the Rock could play the guitar) The supporting characters are not that well developed in the plot but provide a good backdrop for the foibles of Kingman and his daughter. Spike the dog is actually more developed than other characters...ouch!  The movie is interspersed with enough football to keep the guys happy and enough bare chests & biceps to keep the girls happy.

All in all it's a great 'feel good' movie, great for a date night or even a family night. The moral of the story is that at the end of the day, love surpasses all...and isn't that what we all want to escape to anyway?

The disc is loaded with all kinds of extras like bloopers, deleted scenes, alternate intros and a funny clip of the ballet scene in it's entirety. I didn't even have a chance to check out all the fun stuff on there. The DVD is out right now, so check it out when you get a chance. 


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Sunday, January 27, 2008

How To Know When You're Orgasming

This one is for the young ladies in the house.

I remember back in the day before I had my first orgasm. Theoretically, I knew what an orgasm was, I could even break it down to you per anatomy what was going on. However, it took me years after I started having sex to even have my first bonafide, real down and dirty orgasm...and guess what? It was with my Vibrator.

See not knowing what an orgasm felt like, I couldn't tell during sex or making out if I was even close. So I resorted to faking it for several years until I started to believe that sex was just an over-rated activity . My best friend getting me the Vibrator at 21 was a real eye opener. I asked her what I was supposed to do with it in total naivete. She said, "Just play around with it around your pussy and keep playing until it feels good." Her advice was so simple and I took it to heart. 2 hours and 11 real orgasms later, I was still playing with it...I really put my pussy out of commission that week and killed my first vibrator a few weeks later.

It's hard when starting out to know when you are having an orgasm or even close to one, especially when your first is a rookie or totally clueless to the female orgasm. So here's to all the ladies out there that keep wondering if they've ever had a real orgasm yet. If you are thinking that---chances are you haven't. Once you have an orgasm---it will rock your world enough to leave your eyes wide open with knowledge of the petite mort.

Orgasmal Signs Include but are not just limited to the following:
  • Feeling warm and flushed all over
  • Your clitoris gets more swollen and feels really tight
  • Shivers, tingles and tiny shakes all over your body
  • Skin becoming really sensitive, especially the pussy & nipples
  • Toes curling, hands grasping, back arching and other muscular spasms
  • Your pelvic muscles & Kegels tightening in little spasms over and over again
  • Squirting vaginal fluids from the pussy
  • A delightful rush of energy that permeates your body starting from your sex organs and rushing all through your bloodstream; these are the hormones that get released during an orgasm.

Okay, if you have reached the fab age of 21 and haven't had a real bonafide honest to goodness, makes you wanna scream and shout type orgasm yet---may I suggest investing in a vibrator? It'll be the best present you'll ever get yourself. Trust me.

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Saturday, January 26, 2008

This Year Already...

This is just a post to give props to my Circle of Life. These chicks are doing it hardcore this year, and it's only the 4th week of January. Congratulations to all my girls that are living their lives with wild abandon and achieving their dreams.

  1. To N, for getting into law school...yay!
  2. To R, for moving to Sweden for 6 months..."Why Sweden?" I asked her, to which she responded, "why not?". Why not indeed.
  3. To D, for finally finishing her book. Now can you come home already, I miss you!
  4. To N2, for coming over to the Bad Girls Club at
  5. To L, for getting engaged...congratulations, new job, new city, new life!
  6. To K, for starting grad school and buying your first car...I'm so proud of you lil sis.
  7. To J, for growing, it's hard to believe you aren't a little girl anymore

So to everyone that is doing it big already, congratulations. And to everyone that is doing their thing out there in the real world...keep at it, congratulations and I'm so proud of you all.


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Tuesday, January 22, 2008

TMI Tuesday

Hey everyone, I just pulled a 3 in a row night stretch. My job has the internet blocked hardcore, you can't even check your email while at work. But don't worry, I have a few musings to keep you entertained. Let's start off with this weeks TMI Tuesday, shall we?

1. What was your favorite book as a kid? I had too many. Mostly Nancy Drew books, Silence Speaks for Love and some other M&B/Harlequin romance. Yes, I was reading about sex & romance when I was a kid...!
2. If you were stranded on that proverbial desert island (again!), what book or books (up to 5) would you want to have with you? I would want my solar iPod loaded up with a library of books. It would have to be my favorites like John Grisham's The Partner, Sidney Sheldon's Doomsday Conspiracy, The Matarese Circle, every book by Judith McNaught, every book by Christine Feehan and every book by Julie Garwood. That should keep me aight for a few weeks.
3. What was the first "naughty" book you read and in what way was it naughty? Hahaha...the first naughty book I read was What Every Woman Should Know. It was a book that was geared toward pre-pubescent girls talking about periods and stuff. (I think my mom gave it to me). What I liked best was the chapter on sex...hells yeah! It was staid, boring and full of biology and anatomy but it made me interested...enough to start going on hardcore romance novels.
4. If you were to publish your autobiography today, what would be the title? Live & Let Live; that's the mood i am in this present moment.
5. Would you rather look at nude pictures/pornography or read erotic fiction and why? Read erotic imagination is SO MUCH BETTER! Plus, the pics might not turn me on but instead gross me out, you never know with nude pics.

Bonus (as in optional):Do you know the whereabouts today of the first person with whom you had sex? Yeah, he's lying in a ditch somewhere...(I refuse to say more based on grounds of self incrimination...hahaha) Seriously though, I have no clue.


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Monday, January 21, 2008

Angie Stone Giveaway

Hello darlings...I have a present for you. Email me directly with your address and how much you adore Angie Stone. Best response gets a free CD. Contest ends Tuesday at Midnight PST. Please don't forget to include your full name and address in the email.

Angie Stone celebrates Black History Month with her recent CD The Art of
Love and War and her new single “My People.” In support of “My People” and
Black History Month I have The Art of Love and War CDs available for

“My People” Audio Streams:

Neo-Soul diva Angie Stone, declares that her new CD, The Art Of Love And War, is her best
album ever.

The Art Of Love & War, in stores on October 16th on the
reactivated iconic Stax Records label, channels the best of the classic
tradition while looking forward and taking the genre to new places. Stone
exclaims, “This is a reflection of where I am both mentally and spiritually and
what I feel I’ve attained at this point in my life.”

The CD was recorded in its entirety at Marvin’s Room, Marvin Gaye’s former
studio on Sunset Blvd. in Los Angeles and the one-woman dynamo performed,
co-produced, and wrote over 90% of the

The Art of Love & War is a musical distillation of everything that
Angie has been through and has learned throughout her stellar career. “Baby”
featuring R&B/soul/gospel great Betty Wright and production by Co-T, has an
irresistible groove, and is the first single to radio. Renowned production
team DOA worked with Angie on the introspective ballad “Reasons”. Album
openers, “Take Everything In” and “Here We Go” are two of six standout tracks
produced by the acclaimed Jonathan Richmond. The anthemic “My People” with
special guest James Ingram, was selected by Essence Publisher, Susan Taylor, as
the theme song for last month’s Essence Festival’s return to New Orleans.
“I think my personal favorite is ‘Happy Being Me,’ Stone points out.
“I guess that title gives you a clue about how I’m feeling right now.”

“Baby” Music Video

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Sunday, January 20, 2008

When He's More Sexually Active Than You Were...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly a year and we are doing very well. Just the other day he pulled out his yearbook and we looked through pictures and read his friends comments and such, and I began to learn more about his sexual past. He told me stories before about him and other females and admits he used to be "wild" but for some reason when we looked through the year book I began to feel uncomfortable. When he was a teenager in a small town in Alabama it seemed like sex was the thing to do... And its pretty opposite for me. How do I come to terms with his sexual history? How do I deal with this need to measure up or compare...? I've had a lot of sex but with far less partners, because I was typically in long term relationships. Please let me know what you think.

Okay, talking about past sexual encounters usually is like opening up Pandora's box. No matter how 'cool' you think you are or the other person is, thinking about someone you care about screwing someone else is bound to yield one emotion or another. I always say it's better to leave the past in the past....what's done is done and rehashing it doesn't take the relationship anywhere.

At the same time, I have this avid curiousity to know EVERYTHING I possibly can about my partner. So I ask and question and present an open front to hear all the sordid little stories. And boy did Norio have them. First of all, I'm sexually liberated, but even I haven't amassed close to 10% of his conquests. I think most males go through that wild phase, society practically expects them to sow their oats. It's considered cool to be a player, have notches on your bed post, act like a horn dog and fuck anything with a pussy. But I digress.

Not only did Norio have sordid stories to tell me, he also had *gasp* photos and videos. So I had to deal with putting a visual on the stories, and ladies, never EVER watch your man with another girl---it's liable to make you hurl.

After this show and tell session I did what any girl would do in my position. I solidified my conquest of him by fucking the daylights out of him. It didn't put me off, in fact, it made me realise that I'm so much better in the sack than all the chicks I saw combined. That realisation also quickly brought another one---that he's with me now. He's with me.

It means that although your guy has had all these experiences it doesn't diminish your worth to him in any way. He's with you---only you and he is with you for a reason. Most men tend to grow out of their wildness and want someone on a deeper level. Sex is great but it's not the whole enchilada. And just because he had alot of freaky dicky doesn't mean that you aren't a full bad ass in your own right. The amount of partners you have had doesn't directly correlate to the level of your experience. Conversely the lack of experience doesn't directly correlate to the satisfaction of your partner in bed. There is something about you Mary that homeboy is digging. If he wasn't digging you, he wouldn't be around.

There is nothing that you should have to compare. So what if his ex had a bigger booty? You have bigger brains. So what if some girl he used to fuck knew how to do the Brazilian corkscrew? You come in a special package all on your own, with your own skills, personality, character, smarts and beauty. What's not to love?

So please, for the love of all things sexy, throw those insecurities out the window. You are better than all his previous women and pussy combined. You have got to believe in yourself because your lack of confidence will be what erodes the relationship---and not the amount of sex he's had in the past.

If you feel like your sex life isn't as freaky as it could be, then deal with that as a seperate issue, and not as a spring of insecurity from his past. Add erotic messages, dirty talk, lingerie and fantasies. Amp it up, sex it up and do it like the nympho you are. If all else fails, a bomb ass blow job does the trick everytime.

Chill out honey, he's with you now. Good luck.


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Friday, January 18, 2008

TMI Tuesday

What's good fam? Of course my TMI is late, but better late than never! I've been working at my new job, doing night shifts back to back and sleeping days. However now I think I have my groove so let's catch up, shall we...

1. If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be? Hmmm, tough question. I think the house in the Riches...that was a pimp house. Niiice, big and very luxurious.
2. If you had a clone, what would you make it do so you could have free time? I would make it work...duh! Also I would make it clean my house, talk to people on the phone, and drive, and wash the toilet and...---see this is why I don't have a clone.
3. Who was your best friend when you were 8? Her name was Hernalyn. She was the first Asian chick I ever met in my life. She introduced me to pad thai. I moved away with my family when I was 10 and we never saw each other again. When you were 13? Her name was Tope, we met the first day of 7th grade and stayed friends for close to a decade. We had so much in common.
4. If you could travel anywhere, where would it be & why? I would travel to Australia. Just because I could---and because rarely do you hear of us black chicks heading to the land of the Aussies if it's not for a photo shoot! I want to ring in the New Year one year in Sydney before I die.
5. Would you hate loosing your sight or hearing most? My sight! That would totally be a tragedy.

Bonus (as in optional): Nature or nurture?


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Monday, January 14, 2008

The Cheating Detective

I was reading an old article of Cosmopolitan about a woman that's carved a business out of being a cheating detective. She's like a private eye with a twist! For about three to five grand, she will consult with you about your man, learn his hangouts and type of chicks he likes, and then set up a sting operation to catch him cheating. The level of cheating depends on you and how much you are willing to front, with some women going up to $10,000 asking her to set up their men in all kinds of situations.

She's totally anonymous, never sleeps with the guys, uses a fake phone, fake email and has a staff that helps her to set things up. She will dress up, go out and flirt with your guy, catch his attention, get his number and then start calling/texting him until he asks her out all the while recording everything for your viewing pleasure.

The more I read the article, the more flabbergasted I became. Why in the world would one spend so much money on finding out if her guy is a cheat? Honestly hun, you could learn all that for far less money than hiring some expensive decoy. And what would drive a woman to make that her occupation? Sure it's all business and stuff, but how can you live a life that every date, every pseudo relationship is a constant lie?

This just proves to me that there are truly stupid people in the world and a sucker born every minute. Instead of spending thousands of dollars finding out if he's a cheat, just listen to your sixth sense, and follow the clues under your nose. Duh! Most of the time if you do suspect something, you are probably right and you can find things out of your own. Use the money instead on a fabulous vacation to get over your broken heart like a trip to some exotic island or Europe.

Oh, and the cheating detective says that 90% of the time, the man takes the bait and gets caught cheating with her. Suckers.

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Sunday, January 13, 2008

Review: The Tudors

Not being a great lover of that particular period in history, when asked to review the Tudors, I was only going to pop in the first episode of this show for the review, but was caught from the first scene, spending the remainder of my Saturday riveted on the screen.
The story is that of Henry the 8th, but a side of him that was never before seen, rendering the epic story of the rise and domain of his rule in a beautiful and captivating tapestry. The costumes are quite authentic, and the beautiful setting and aura surrounding the court do much to add to the full elements of it's protrayal.
It has something for the guys too....lots of sex! This is like watching a soft porn---almost every episode had some freaky deaky going on.The court is really full of lovers. It seemed like everyone was doing it, from the King to the priest and the butcher...everyone was getting it on. The lasciviousness is enough to make one blush! I was sooooo ready for some good loving after watching all the episodes through.
The story is woven in such a dramatic way that you are immediately drawn to each of the characters and understand their motivation. I don't want to give it away but if you haven't seen the Tudors, check it out just to get what all the hype is about. Lots of eye candy, lots of sex and the plot is as thick as a forest. You grow to love Queen Catherine but still root for Anne Boelyn--that's how gripping it is.
The epic, critically-acclaimed series that proves it’s good to be the king prepares to reign when THE TUDORS The Complete First Season debuts on DVD January 1, 2008 from Paramount Home Entertainment. Starring Jonathan Rhys Meyers (M:i:III) as a young King Henry VIII, the Emmy® Award-winning series portrays the monarch as never before—a fierce warrior, impetuous lover, impassioned leader and rebellious youth. Young and sexy, Henry became the most powerful man in the world at the age of 19. THE TUDORS daringly reveals the early years of the man who changed the course of history through his legendary passion and scandalous affairs with an opulent visual feast that brings to life one of the most decadent and tumultuous times in history. THE TUDORS The Complete First Season four-disc set includes all 10 scintillating episodes plus a behind-the-scenes look at the Emmy-winning wardrobe, the series’ lush production and favorite locations in contemporary London, as well as free episodes of the Showtime series “Californication”, “This American Life” and “Penn & Teller B.S.!” and a free digital download of “Californication”. The DVD will be available for the suggested retail price of $42.99. SynopsisTHE TUDORS presents the rarely dramatized, tumultuous early years of King Henry VIII’s nearly 40 year, omnipotent reign (1509-1547). In addition to his famous female consorts, 20+ years of marriage to Catherine of Aragon and infamous dalliance with Anne Boleyn, the series delves into Henry’s most notable political relationship and the deconstruction of the Roman Catholic Church in England.
The show returns to Showtime in March, so that way you can catch up on season one before season two brings in the heat!


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Saturday, January 12, 2008


Hey peoples,

Do I really post that infrequent that noone knows I've been out? Dayum! New Year Resolution, post more often.

I was sick in the hospital since the 5th, not a cool way to start the year but it has been my modus operandi as of the last few years.

Anyway, there is alot to do and say, but first I must catch up on all you blogging freaks out there.

Oh, and although I'm hella late,



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