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Sunday, August 31, 2008

TMI Tuesday

Okay so after getting bogged down with work, life and school, I'm resurfacing for another TMI Tuesday on Sunday.

You find a fairy. With a wave of their wand they can change anything for you.

What is the one thing you would change about your body? I want a ripped stomach. Besides that I'm pretty much fabulous.

What is the one personality trait you would change? My inability to be assertive when I should be. Even when I'm irritated and getting dumped on by a colleague, I just keep a blank mask and seethe on the inside. I need to be able to blow up at someone and assert my abilities...especially in the workplace. Most of the time I come home and whine to Norio, and he's like. "You didn't say anything to check them?" Ummm no.

What is the one thing about your job you would change? That all the patients could magically move and turn themselves. My back is killing me!

What is the one thing about your home you would change? The location. I want it in a hot state like TX or CA. And I would change the ancientness and the fact that it doesn't have my custom built dream kitchen with an island.

What is the one thing about your Significant Other you would change? His ability to remember every little single thing forever and ever. This sucks in arguments because he always wins for being able to recall when I said and did what. I don't even have a comeback when he repeats verbatim what I said.

Who is the one person you would poof out of your life and why? Noone. If there was someone I didn't want in my life, I would just cut them out...why bother wasting a wish on that? Gimme a few million instead fairy!

Who is the one person you would poof back in and why? Once again...noone. These aren't real wishes are they....?

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Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Hot Seat Questions

Okay, so Eb the Celeb definitely put me in the hot seat on this one. She takes inquisitive to a whole new level...guess I asked for it though!

What is there to do in Portland? Nothing. Unless you are the hippie, vegetarian, bar hopper, beer guzzler, or athletic I wanna jog, cycle, ski and climb mountains type. They have some good eats, lots of trendy shops downtown and a pretty decent art and music scene. It's a mixture of alot of good culture, but I'm still trying to find my way and it doesn't beat San Fran in my estimate.

How did you and your hubby meet and if your not married do you think he is the one. Damn, these are harder than TMI questions! So presently, we're engaged. I'm supposed to be planning a tri-continental in Nigeria, one in Israel and one in Costa Rica. Suffice to say, we're getting the money for all those tickets and weddings together. We are both from large extended cultural families so the first 2 satisfy the families and Costa Rica is for our close friends in the US and honeymoon. Tentative dates are next year. And we met online...I wrote an ad on Craigslist, it was so long and specific that it was almost anal. He's the only guy out of 200+ responses that answered all the questions and had a really hot pic. We met, got together and 3 years later here we are....Oh...and I do absolutely think he's the one.

I try not to talk about Norio on here because I'll start gushing and going on and on and on about how the sun shines out of his ass and how wonderful he is...(my friends hate that and I know my blog readers will too!). So really, don't get me started or this will turn into one of those I love my hubby so much blog posts.

And since you wouldn't answer it in the deadly sins... who are you lusting over besides your hubby? Well, I didn't answer because it's hard... no one really appeals to me like that, there isn't a guy that matches up. I know it's kinda cliche, but Norio is super hot..and his body and...other parts;), are just absolutely delish that I have no eyes or time for anyone else.

One actor that you are smitten over. I think Denzel and Will Smith are so talented.

Girl crush? Angelina Jolie. I would totally do her, weird blood vials and all.

What do you plan to do with this time off? So far I completed my final paper for this annoying class I'm almost done with, and I'm hosting a party at my house on Friday. I'm also catching up on my books and television! I need to mail off my passport for my European visa and set my house in order. Oh...and skydiving is on the list too.

Name one place you haven't been that you want to go before you die and why? That's a tough question. It's a toss up between the Seychelles because the pictures are so beautiful and Santorini. I'm traveling to Europe this December but those islands are just pure hot spots that I will visit on a summer vacation.

Can we get a pic? That would just elude the whole 'anonymity' thing on the internet.


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Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Deadly Sin Secrets

1. LUST: Besides your current Significant Other who do you lust for or have you lusted for? Hmm, should I really put that on here? I plead the fifth due to self incrimination
2. GLUTTONY: What food brings out your inner glutton? Rice and fried fish. Yummm!
3. GREED: What are you greedy for? Money. That's an easy one.
4. SLOTH: What is your plan for an ideal day of sloth? Watching TV all day long. No shower, no work, and lots of junk food.
5. WRATH: Describe a time that you let out a can of whoop ass on someone. Does verbal whoop ass count? I don't fight physically, I have no advantages there. But ass is grass!
6. ENVY: Who or what do you envy? Why? I envy people that are healthy and will never see the hospital besides the day of their birth and the day of their death. Because hospitals and illness sucks!
7. PRIDE: Have you ever had to swallow your pride? Not really, I'm a pretty modest person. I get shy when praises are heaped on me. Surprising, I know. What are you proud of? All my accomplishments, mistakes, bad decisions and choices. I'm proud of myself for living through everything to enjoy life no matter what.


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Saturday, August 16, 2008

Need Questions

Hey everyone!

I have 10 days off and nothing to do, so please send me all your interesting questions. What's on your mind? What do you want to share? What are you going through? Let's talk!



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Wednesday, August 13, 2008

When He Doesn't Call

One of the greatest divides between the sexes is the fact that us girls love to chit chat on the phone for hours and hours, however the men start tuning us out after 20 minutes unless we are talking about sex. This isn't a bad thing, just a disimilarity in the way that we communicate.

A friend of a friend spent Saturday night waiting by the phone for the new guy that she hasn't even had a first date with---to call her. She waited for 6 hours, doing nothing but pace up and down to check if her phone was working. ON A SATURDAY NIGHT!

When I heard this, I was appalled. What is it with women that we clear our schedules and make ourselves available for a stupid phone call? Every bad girl knows that the key to maintaining an interesting personality is to have an interesting life. You should not be sitting home waiting for the phone to ring. Even if you are at home, you should be doing something fun; like painting your nails, washing your hair or masturbating.

I hate to see women that all their lives revolve around a man. Especially since 9 times out of 10 the man's life doesn't revolve around her. He's probably out with his buddies, having a good time carousing the time, without a care on his mind. And she's stuck home waiting for the phone to ring. Ugh!

I told my friend to tell her to read my blog. I hope she does.

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Monday, August 11, 2008

When You Don't Fit the 'Type'

I am a loyal reader of your blog and I had a question. I am a lesbian who keeps running into the wrong women. I am a "femme" if you will, and I normally attract "studs". I don't know if you have an insight into the gay community or anything but femme means "girly" and stud means "manly". Just because I am feminine doesn't mean that I should or even need to be with someone who is masculine. In the area that I live in.... St. Louis, MO, it seems as if the girly lesbians HAVE to be with manly lesbians. I am not necessarily attracted to only masculinity, I am a lesbian for sake, but I'm wondering what I am doing wrong or am I doing something wrong? Do I live in the wrong place where lesbians are prone to the other side? To me, studs have complexes. Really, I don't agree with women trying to be manly. They over do it and they treat you worst them some of the real men out here. Im in love with women, so I don't know what to do. your thoughts on this please.....

Okay darling, I've never even kissed a girl so this is all new to me. But I'll try to answer your question from my perspective. If you want to date a girl that is more along your personality, then you have to go where girls like you would normally hang out. Since the femme is more feminine, perhaps try meeting her at the mall or beauty parlor versus the club or bar. You have to change your dynamics in order to achieve your goals.

It's a generalization to say that studs have complexes, it might be true for some, but not all studs have complexes. I've never been to Missouri but if it's like every other American city, there are people of every race, creed and sexual orientation. Perhaps it would work if you were the ones that made the choice and not wait for the lez to approach you. After all, logic states that the studs have more ego, hence confidence so they would be the ones doing the asking.

Flip the script, place an ad online with all your fabulous info and a cute pic and what you want in a girl. Make sure to state that you aren't interested in studs and then let the responses flood in. Pick and choose a few that you like and I'm sure you will find someone. Using the internet creates the 3rd wall of comfort so the girls that are shy would be more prone to respond to your ad. I used to Craigslist to find Norio using this method and three years later I'm still happily in love. So just think outside the 'box' and try someting different.

Good luck.

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Saturday, August 09, 2008

Dealing with Office Drama

I'm at the point where I've put in time, years, etc... to my career. Besides
myself, there is only one other counselor in the office that has been around a while and is the senior counselor.

The problem I have is that the newest member of our team (hired from another institution) seems to be almost "too aggressive". From day one this female has been getting into people's business, asking an extreme amount of multiple questions both ork related and non, jumping in where it is not appropriate, trying to make decisions, insisting that certain things get done quick fast and in a hurry, asking about what deductions others are taking out of their pay, and leeching on to the other new folks who have no idea whats going on themselves. She also has taken almost every lunch with our exec director and tends to just be "too much". I back off when people are too much" because I feel as if you need to sit back and learn before you speak and jump in. I am uncomfortable with "new employees" coming in the door having no proven track record and automatically feeling as if they run the show. I especially feel annoyed because I am the only "seasoned" member of the team who knows whats going on, and my "director" is busy trying to be every one's friend and staying full of drama and letting everyone in on her business.

I have once again taken a back seat and just decided not to get too involved with these folks...sometimes when people get too comfortable with you the respect level lowers and you find yourself getting caught up in petty drama..

How else should I handle it?

You actually are doing the right thing. This new chick has a couple of issues, she is coming into a new situation where everyone knows each other. She is at the disadvantage here of familiarity so she's trying to overcompensate for her newness by her overt friendliness. She's trying to make people like her much too soon. Someone needs to tell her to tone it down. The gossip and her trying to get the scoop on everyone is her way of getting an edge on the situation. It's a stupid move on her part, because it will turn people off once they see that she's trying to manipulate them.

I would just stay out it, out of her line of 'friendliness' and don't give her any personal info. You will get to know her in time, but keep a firm boundary that you have established. I don't think your boss is going to fall for her machinations, even though she's being friendly. She probably is just trying to make the new girl comfortable. It sucks being the new person and not everyone deals with it right. Cut her some slack but still keep your distance.

Good luck.

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Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Tuesday Secrets

1. What were you known as in HS (Jock, Princess, Geek): Ummm, the nerd. I was the yearbook editor and drama club president, so yeah, I was that nerdy chick. No glasses though. My sister was Ms. Popularity and my other sis was the Princess. LMAO.

2. What were you really? Really, I was a vixen just waiting to grow up.

3. If you could go back and tell your 16 year old self one thing, what would it be? Relax. Everything you want right now is going to be yours. Just relax.

4. If you could erase one moment from your school days what would it be? None. I had a wonderful high school experience, geekiness notwithstanding.

5. Who did you not date (or more) that you wish you did? I didn't date anyone. I wish I had had at least one boyfriend though.


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