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Sunday, July 30, 2006

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Out of town:)

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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Hey Guys!

I keep staring at this blank page, trying to come up with something to write but my mind is in such turmoil. I realise that I have been slacking off writing for the last few weeks, but July has been such a royally uproarious month. Hopefully things will settle down soon.

As you can see from below, I have some time on my hands and not that much to say. So, do a few of these and let me know what you get:)

Your Vibe is Super Sexy

You feel 100% sexy at almost any moment
And this inner sexiness really does boost your appeal
You're confident, playful, and outgoing
You know what you have to offer - and you're proud of it!
How Sexy Is Your Vibe?


You are a Career Girl!

You may not be a CEO yet, but you're well on your way to success.
You take your career seriously, and you wouldn't stop working for any guy!
An independent woman, you pay for your own car, clothes, and housing.
And men appreciate that - at least, the ones as driven as you are.
What Kind of Girl Are You?


Your Stripper Song Is

She Wants to Move by N.E.R.D.

"Her off beat dance makes me fantasize
(Her curves) She's sexy!!"

You are 100% sex appeal. As simple as that.
What Song Should You Strip To?

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Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Elexa Blog

The Elexa blog is up! Finally. Check it out....HERE!

www.elexasexysmart.com

Let me know what you think.

PS: Do me a favor and leave a comment on there too, willya? It looks woefully bare:)

Thanks.

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Monday, July 24, 2006

The Rules of a One Night Stand

I've been reading a blog by a new Singleton who has been trying to have a one night stand for what seems like forever in her eyes. For one reason or another, the guys (5 at the last count) have all eliminated themselves from the running. This isn't because of any lack on her part, she's sexy, confident, intelligent and has her own place, but it's because the guys---have been caught slacking off in one way or another. What's up? I thought guys wanted to get picked up?

Don't take this the wrong way guys---but honestly, there are women out there who aren't all for a relationship. We aren't looking for you to instantly become a boyfriend. We just want a good shag session. Why is that so hard to find???

Well, here's a little rant dedicated to SBCD in the hopes that she (and all the other ladies out there like her, do find what they are looking for).

One Night Stand Rules
  • For starters, consider yourself lucky that I've settled on hanging with you for the night. Don't think that it was a spontaneous decision based on your witty conversation or merits you laid out. No honey, it was based purely on my intuition and on my attraction to you. If the three parts of me all decide that you are worthy (my brain, my body and my vagina), then you will get a yellow light. However, if one of them objects, chances are it ain't happening. Reasons for objections are varied but include; bad body odor, cheesy willies, dirty drawers, your cell phone blowing up 24/7, you falling asleep or passing out, lack of sexual expertise, drowning me in saliva, being unable to find the clitoris even with a map & compass etc.
  • If you can't back up the talk shut the fuck up! Don't talk to me all night about how you are going to do me all night long, how sexy I am and at the last second remember you have a girlfriend, wife, ex or some other reason why we can't do it. Yes---guys do lead women on as well, and it would be better if you told me from the onset and stopped wasting my time.
  • Once you've let it slip that you have another woman in the picture, don't get mad at me if I decide to forgo the encounter. Being your little plaything to cheat with your wife/woman or get back at your ex is just me playing with fire. I don't need that kind of bad karma and unlimited drama, dating's hard enough as it is.
  • If during the evaluation phase you notice me yawning, me fidgeting, glancing at the clock or my eyes glazing over, chances are I'm bored with you and have decided not to go through with it. Don't take offense when I tell you that I have an early day tomorrow and want you to leave. Seen in the bright light of the parking lot, perhaps one of the Triad changed their minds about having you over and decided to boot you off the island.
  • Chances are, you might think that acing the evaluation phase gets you in. Remember, you are just a one night stand, not some grand ole' boyfriend. Please don't get too comfortable and start gushing and talking. Especially talking too damn much! You were brought here for the sole purpose of fucking~~~all you have to do is uphold that side of the bargain and it's all gravy baby.
  • When it comes to the question of protection, if you balk at putting on a condom then please, just get to stepping. In this day and age I have neither the time nor inclination to have you cajole me into getting laid without wrapping it up. I have a wide array of different ones in all shapes, flavors and sizes, so be like a kid in a candy store, pick your favorite and lets get some action already. It's really that simple.
  • If I happen to pick you up in a bar for a quick fling and bring you back to my pad (which rarely happens)---don't you even dare think that you are spending the night. As soon as you are recuperated enough from our rousing bedplay, I expect you to gather all your belongings and leave. I've had guys leaving their wallet or cell phone as a way to be able to come back. Oh hell no! I'll mail it to you, thank you very much! And please, for the love of all things good----don't come back uninvited. Or I might have to break out my stun gun on you.
  • Cut the sentimental bullshit already! No, I don't want a rose the next morning with a note, right out of Pretty Woman. I don't need the cards, chocolates or fancy breakfast. Just a quick text message or 30 second phone call is good enough to end the encounter.
  • If you were good, you will be placed on my Booty List. Which means that when I'm in the mood, I will call you for a booty call. If you don't hear from me, it means that you sucked and I don't want to sleep with you ever again. Please don't become a bugaboo or stalker. That will only get you X-ed off the list.
  • Should we run into each other again on another night out: Please fight the urge to turn into a nasty ass blabbing to your mates about our encounter; Don't presume you'll get lucky again but be cordial.
  • You aren't the Booty King. Don't think you're the only one on the booty list so get those "I'm the best she's ever had" thoughts out of your head, you are easily replaced, babe.
  • Lastly, keep your mouth shut. I don't want to be hit on by your friends the next time I'm out. You've made it to the Booty List, don't throw that away. It's an exclusive list. I'd hate to kick you to the curb because you couldn't stop flapping your gums to your boys about how you "tapped that ass."
Love the new additions:)
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Sunday, July 23, 2006

She's the Man ---and the Girl!

She's the Man (Widescreen Edition)
by Andy Fickman

Amanda Bynes proves that girls can do anything guys can do in She’s the Man. The laughs are non-stop when Viola (Bynes), disguised as her twin brother, Sebastian (James Kirk), joins the high school boys’ soccer team and helps win the big game while unexpectedly falling for Duke (Channing Tatum) the hot star forward. Viola discovers that dealing with high school politics and twisted love triangles is a major challenge when you’re a guy who’s really a girl! From the writers of Legally Blonde, She’s the Man features an ensemble cast of up and coming stars and hit songs from OK-Go, The Veronicas & the F-ups. It’s perfect for good-time fun!

I jumped at the chance to check this movie out because I didn’t get to see it in the theatres. It’s an adaptation of Shakespeare’s the Twelfth Night, and actually is pretty well told and sticks well to the original. For a Shakespeare adaptation, you would think that the plot would fall flat on it’s face (as seen with the debacle O) but that is not the case here.

The casting was superb, with Amanda Bynes doing a great job acting both as Viola & Sebastian. For the ladies, we have alot of eye candy, with Channing Tatum’s steamy bedroom eyes walking around shirtless for half the movie. For the guys, we have those sexy teens strutting around in cheerleading outfits and some sports thrown in.

It’s a high school movie, with some soccer thrown in to amp it up a bit. The characters were very well defined, each having active screen time and had an interlacing backstory that filled out nicely with the plot. The plot flowed quite well together and even had some genuine laugh out loud moments.

This movie is highly recommended for those of you that enjoyed 10 Things I Hate About You, Save the Last Dance and other films of that type.

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Saturday, July 22, 2006

My Best Lover

Laura over at Real Sex Tips wrote this awesome article about the traits of one's best lover. I agree with all of them whole heartedly. Except for me #5 is the most important---the first on my mind and the one that makes everything else click into place. Do you think that we can only have a few best lovers? Or perhaps even just one? And do you think that if you happen to have a great man---who isn't (for one reason or another) your best lover that you will be truly satisfied?


Sometimes I try to find out the key to fantastic sex and search for the answer why it felt so good with one person and otherwise with the other. Why do we call someone a fabulous lover and go mad in his presence, while Mr. Incredible seemed to have used all the "right techniques" but the fact didn't survived in my memory somehow. Thus I understand that there are some evident signs of what I would call "my best lover":
1. My best lover makes me feel comfortable. That implies, that I feel at ease with him and we are both open enough to discuss all the delicate matters which arouse in our bedroom.
2. My best lover enjoys sex! You may ask, and who doesn't? I would say that many people have sex for many reasons but enjoyment. A lot of men are more concerned with their performance rather than a true desire to enjoy the process itself.
3. My best lover has an idea of woman sexuality. He doesn't think that sex is simply about hitting your vagina deeper. He knows that I need affection and I need time to reveal the complexity of my sexual reactions above all, that's why he is receptive to my urges.
4. My best lover is open to experiments. This doesn’t mean he just twirls me vigorously, trying all the existing sex position. It's more like his unprejudiced attitude towards new practices which may become a real discovery for both of us.
5. My best lover comes closer to my body right after he'd come closer…to my heart.

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Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Man Camp----a Possibility?

Man Camp: A Novel
by Adrienne Brodeur

The premise of this book sounds pretty good, educate men on the alpha male tendencies that civilization has stripped from them in the guise that a chilvarious, hardcore, masculine gentleman will emerge. It was hard getting into it though. I found the scenes really jumpy and the dialogue quite mundane. There were some interesting ideas and plot twists thrown in to mix it up, but all in all, not something I would choose to buy.

Perhaps it'’s just that as I kept reading, one thought kept going through my mind--You can'’t change a man. It's a futile effort. Just accept & love him the way he is or move on to find someone that you can love him just as he is.
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On Finding Mr. Right

I'm currently reading a book by this author entitled Man Camp and came across this excerpt that might spark some debate. Logically, throwing out your list sounds like a good idea, but I feel that you can't find what you are looking for in a guy if you don't know what you are looking for. Of course, I do agree that most of the lists might have uberly-superficial items on it, which is what should get thrown out. However, the construct of the Master List should remain in your mind. What side of the fence are you....do you think you should have a Master List or throw it out?
You can probably even list the attributes, qualities and qualifications that your future husband needs in order to apply for the job of your mate. I had a three-tiered system myself. First, there were the requirements: an interesting profession (preferably in the arts), a great sense of humor, a sterling character, financial security. Next, there was the frosting (as in, wouldn’t-it-be-nice-if-he-were…): over six feet tall, devastatingly handsome, a cat lover. And finally, there were the deal breakers: children, difficult ex-wives, bad toupees. Of course, like you, I fancied myself to be magnanimous and flexible in as much as I was willing to overlook certain undesirable traits – say, thinning hair and a few extra pounds – for the perfect guy. Now, even if your list is different from mine, I think you know what I’m talking about.

Here's some advice: Lose your lists now, Ladies! Mine almost kept me from getting to know my husband. and I were set up on a blind date by a mutual friend. We were both divorced and practiced daters, and knew the rules of the game. We met at a conveniently located wine bar and immediately set into the first date volley of get-to-know-you-questions: Where are you from? What do you do? How many siblings? My first impression of Tim was that he was utterly unobjectionable: nice, attractive, smartly dressed, well mannered. But something was missing . . . .
Let’s revisit my list. First off, Tim’s "interesting profession" was in finance, which to a writer like me seemed like a big snoozer of a job. Next, he was a listener, so at first glance, it didn’t appear that he had a "great sense of humor." As for the other two requirements – a "sterling character" and "financial security" – both are tough to determine on a first date. What he did have in spades were deal breakers – two sons (teenagers, no less) and a horrific ex-wife. My thought bubble at the time? Check, please. What to do next was a no-brainer: I finished my glass of Shiraz, graciously declined his dinner invitation, gave him a peck on the cheek and thought, Nice knowing you, Buddy. I went home, curled up with a book and didn’t give Tim or our date a second thought.

Luckily for me, my husband didn’t subscribe to the list mentality himself. He called. He pursued. He courted. I joked about him to my friends – Who was this suit and why wouldn’t he just leave me alone? But Tim was sincere in his feelings and steadfast in his determination. He wouldn’t take no for an answer. Since I refused to make time for proper dates for weeks, he tagged along to some readings and other literary events. Reluctantly, over the course of several months, I got to know him. Turns out, Tim is unquestionably the man of my dreams, though he bears little resemblance to the fantasy man I thought I’d end up with. Tim is funny and smart and warm beyond words and, though finance still isn’t fascinating to me, it is to him, which is all that matters in the end. He has given me a daughter and made my life happy in ways I would never have imagined. And to think, if left to my own devices – and my own list – I probably wouldn’t even remember his name right now.
Here are a few things to remember. Lists only rule people out, which isn’t a good way of allowing someone new and wonderful into your life (presumably your goal). If the guy you’re with is not as tall or as rich or as skilled in witty bantering as you thought Mr. Right should be, take the time to notice what his strengths are. It’s always easier to see what’s wrong than what’s right, and far more rewarding to do the opposite. Remember, it’s hard to find love if you’re busy thinning the herd. Besides, are you really willing to gamble potential happiness away because he doesn’t earn seven figures? Get to know the person across the table from you and above all, be open!

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Adrienne Brodeur is the founding editor of Zoetrope: All-Story. She lives in New York City. Visit her website at www.gotomancamp.com.


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Tuesday, July 18, 2006

Hey Guys!

I might not be able to post that much this week----just started a new job. However, I will try to do a little something, being that things have been slow the last 2 weeks.

Anybody have anything they want to talk about?

Leave a comment/email me.

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Monday, July 17, 2006

Roses to Ashes

At the beginning of a new relationship, everything is nice and rosy, with each of you excited to see the other person, and each doing sweet things to make the other person feel special. As all new relationships, the romance does fade, and this is one of the things that will distinguish a lasting relationship from a breakup right after the honeymoon phase relationship.

It's not that the excitement really disappears, it's more of the fact that he/she has already proven themselves to be a great catch. They got you---you're committed, so now it's time to let loose. So either they stop putting forth the extra effort, start letting their true colors show or just become a less glamorous version of themselves.

It's here that people notice the habits that weren't noticed before, the annoying stuff that eventually gets under their skin. It's here that the abusers, whiners, complainers and the like start morphing to a worse version of the person you thought you knew. It's here that the mirage fades, and what you thought was a handsome guy who 'cared' about you becomes a demon of the worst kind.

If everyone was honest, upfront and themselves from the very beginning---this wouldn't be such a problem. However, you have to bear in mind that the issues that you start to notice post-honeymoon, were already there in the beginning. You just had your damn rose tinted goggles on and refused to see the light.

Perhaps if we paid more attention to those red flags, we'll have less stuff to regret later. Perhaps if we let sex stop becoming such a powerful deciding factor we can have less clouded judgment. Perhaps if we listen to our intuition and sixth sense, we can truly discern a bad character before we let our heart get in the mix to get broken.

Perhaps.

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Thursday, July 13, 2006

New Project: Elexa

I've been given the opportunity to have a cross-promotional blog with Elexa. For the concerned, it will mean nothing really changes here---perhaps a few more topics about sex though. In addition to writing for them, a reasonable stipend, I get to try out a box of $500 worth of Elexa products. Yes---the boyfriend was very happy to learn about that part.

For those of you more conversant with me, you will realize that I'm a big fan of Elexa. There's something about the perfect fit of all their condoms for all penis sizes, and the virtually No smell of latex that makes even a normally condom wearing fanatic all googoogaga.

Yes, it's a tad more expensive than the average condom, but when you factor in the fact that it's made/marketed exclusively for women---there's a brand that I had to try. And once I tried it, I became a believer.

So yeah, more sex talk.

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Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Re: Acceptance

Brad K left this comment on the blog yesterday that I just wanted to bring to everyone's attention. I feel that this is a salient point to add to the discussion.
We don't live in a vacuum. That is, we have family, we have schools (with their mixed messages), we have governments and churches. And centuries of cultural baggage .. um .. heritage. Most of our traditions of marriage in Europe and the US go back to the Italians and the Renaissance. Then the family arranged the marriage, and the bride was nearly a commodity. So if today a 'defective' bride is put aside, there is cultural precedent. That a wife stays with her husband is expected, she had no recourse under the law unless she (successfully) ran away. Girls are still taught to find 'Mr. Right', and boys to find 'the best girl'. A slight difference in emphasis. A guy has to do something (wrong) to stop being 'right', while a girl just has to stop being 'the best' to lose her credentials for being picked.

We have to understand our culture, what our churches and our governments and our family and friends expect and believe, as well as whether we as individuals have 'character'. We have to consider whether to change what we teach our children if we want them to have better lives.

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Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Who Is More Accepting?

One of my darling readers emailed me this question that struck a few chords with me.

Do you think that women seem to be more accepting of the physical appearance of a loved one, as opposed to men? Take the story of Beauty and the Beast for example. It always seems society overlooks that most times men leave women (I am not making an absolute statement here) that have become disfigured or physically disabled. Some say it is because they just can't handle it. I wonder if you reverse the roles if it would be the same. I think women see more beyond the outside appearance like the country song "Stand by your man".

Interesting line of thought. I think that it's not really a generalization of the sexes as it is a character flaw. For every example of a man leaving his wife when she falls ill there are also apt examples of the guys actually sticking through thick and thin what many a woman has been known to flee. At the same time, there are also scenarios where it's the woman that bails as soon as her man gets into a spot of trouble or difficulty.

I myself have an acute illness that has sent many a guy hightailing in the opposite direction. Sure, they didn't outrightly come out and say that they were afraid of dealing with my sickle cell, but eventually a few came back to tell me this was the case.

My uncle told me that there are usually 3 reasons why a guy would break up with someone that he 'loved' in times of illness:
  1. He's a coward: He only wants to be with you when everything is going hunky dory. You falling sick doesn't make the situation any more beneficial to him, he might see you as needy and a burden to him. He doesn't want to deal with hospitals and doctors. He has a fear of blood. He has something in his past (death of a parent), that your ill state will bring to mind and he can't deal with this.
  2. He loves you too much: Surprisingly this has the possibility of being true. He loves you so much that your pain becomes his pain. He can't bear to see you hurting or dealing with illness because it hurts him. He cannot be strong for you, be your rock because he's too emphathetic to your situation and ends up being more of a hindrance. He might feel that leaving/breaking up with you will be better in the long run.
  3. He doesn't love you enough: And mayhap this is the cruelest sword of all. He has it in his mind that Miss Perfect be perfectly healthy, and you therefore not being so doesn't hold up your end of the agreement. He feels that you broke the bargain by falling sick and so he doesn't have to uphold the whole "Death do you part" side of the marriage vows or even the "Stand by your girl" side of relationships. Seriously though---during times of life crises it's better to have support and care from those that love you unequivocally, than to have the simper of a guy that only wants you when you are perfect.
People have in their mind the kind of person they want to end up with. I mean really, who has ever though of Mr. Right to have a trach or live in a wheelchair? Who fantasizes about Ms. Right missing a limb or two? It's not in human make-up to want to deal with disease, disfigurement and possible death. However that is life, shit happens.

It takes a special kind of person, a strong, loyal & loving person to be able to help you enough to help you through difficult times. Isn't that what we really want anyway?

Oh and to answer your question....yes, women can be more accepting, but men are also capable of dealing with the curveballs that life throws our way. Perhaps if society stopped making excuses for men, they would be more guys out there that stepped up to the plate.

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Sunday, July 09, 2006

Breaking Up a Bad Friendship

What do you do when they won't let you go? Ignore them? Being polite, fading away silently, and then having a blow up haven't worked so far, and still nothing has changed. ~ LB

When you have a friend, it's very easy for you to get attached to them and vice versa. Sometimes, the bonds are so strong that it's hard for your friend to let go, even though you've done everything short of overtly telling them that---chick, it's over.

Ignoring won't work with most, because when you ignore someone, they try harder and harder to get your attention. Being polite won't affect the more obtuse ones because courtesy doesn't faze them. Fading away probably failed because she still wouldn't want to let go---and probably doesn't even know the friendship is over. A blow-up might not have worked because she probably rationalized you as overly emotional and then decided to 'forgive' you, ignoring whatever the issue was and trying to send you on a guilt trip instead.

I'm always an advocate of the direct approach. Tell her that you need to take a step back from the friendship. Tell her that it's not working out with you anymore. Tell her it's over---you don't want to see her/talk to her/have anything to do with her ever again. Having a direct face to face conversation is hard to do, especially when it's someone that you've been friends with for a long time, but it's the proper thing to do.

Before you do this however, you have to make sure that you are ready to sever the bonds totally. If you are still unsure about it, or think you might change your mind, then be sure to let this be known.

I was dumped by a friend once a few years ago. It was rough, especially since I didn't think our friendship was toxic, but apparently she thought it was to her. I didn't realise until after we stopped talking how inequitable the friendship was. Two years later, she calls me back to apologise and try to renew our friendship. However, the trust had already been broken and there was no way that I could go back and be friends with her. Not even casual friends, I had considered it an end of a chapter and moved on.

So if you are 100% sure that you are totally done with her, then yes, by all means, tell her. Be firm but polite, stating your reasons in a non-accusatory manner. She's going to be hurt, pissed off and really mad at you, but that anger will help her to leave you alone. Perhaps even having this talk with her will shake her up and make her realise how much she has been taking your friendship for granted. Who knows....it might actually be a turning point for her.

Either way....what have you got to lose by telling her outright?

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Saturday, July 08, 2006

Toxic Friendships

Definition: A toxic friendship is one that is detrimental to your happiness and well-being.

I'm a great believer in having your Circle of Life, friends that you know have your back 24/7 as you have theirs. The friends that honor the code as well as all the precepts laid down for the Sisterhood.

Every relationship you have in your life (except the bonds of blood, for we cannot choose our relatives), should enrich your life as you enrich theirs. That is the premise that most friendships are based on---but not alot fulfill.

As with any relationship, the effort put forth to keep a friendship should be reciprocal. However, in this day and age, it's getting harder to find and stay close to your best friends, the ones that have been time-tested and mother-approved. A shift has appeared in most because of distance, change in life phases, or a life altering-crises. So we've moved on to finding replacements, friends that we know for this phase of our life, for this new move, for this job. These are all good friends in their own right, but few fit the mold of our best friend.

The reasons a friendship could become toxic are varied but usually all stem from the same place---selfishness. When she starts putting her needs as a constant first instead of the friendship first, this affects your relationship. Selfishness tends to yield other notable characteristics like frienvy, jealousy, cock-blocking, or one of you breaking the Code.

How do you know if your friendship is toxic?
  • You start making up excuses why you can't see her or talk to her on the phone.
  • You get upset whenever you are around her for an extended period of time.
  • You have alot of things that you don't bother telling her---secrets and personal details that she used to be privy to back in the day.
  • You find yourself always doing things for her and helping her out, but when you are in need, she is no where to be found.
  • One or both of you is always mad at the other, having fights seemingly every week or so.
  • She does things you don't agree with.
The problem with holding on to a toxic relationship is mainly that you are surrounding yourself with all that negative energy. Especially if you are the sort (like me) who doesn't say exactly how she feels right then and there but holds on to it. The feelings and emotions sit and fester in you, making you moody, upset, irascible, irritable, easily hurt and difficult for no outward reason. The energy eventually spills over to other areas/people in your life and affects those relationships as well.

Sure, it's difficult to let go of a friend that you've known for several months/years/decades, but sometimes, it's better in the long run. Life is hard enough without adding toxic friendships to the mix.

And who knows---perhaps after a period of time without you, she will realise what a great friend you are and make amends, improving the friendship in the future.

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Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Thrill Every Inch of Him

As I was browsing through last month's Cosmopolitan, yes I do read that stuff, but don't get to it until I'm totally out of books to read, I stumbled across an article that incited my very curious mind into doing some testing. Written by Ronnie Koenig, these 'mind-blowing moves will electrify your guy's whole bod and leave him begging for your touch."

With a tagline like that, of course I had to try it out, using my guy as a guinea pig. I even got a pen and scored it according to what He thought it should be scored.

Naughty Neck Nibble: Yes, we do tend to do this alot. But it's suggested to let your mouth meander over to the side of his neck, right beside his ear. Starting with gentle tongue swirls, gradually progress to slightly more forceful nibbles and nips, the kind that suggest animalistic passion. Magnify with a zig-zag pattern so he can't predict where your lips will land next. This is waaaaay too technical for my spontaneous nature, so I just kissed around his neck and earlobes until I got bored with it. His score:8.5| My score: 6.8

Tailbone Tickle: Located just below the small of his back is the coccyx, a traingular bone that is a bundle of nerves connected to his penis and the main muscles in his butt. Have him lie on his stomach, glide your fingertips in tight circles across his tailbone, slowly fanning out and making your circles larger so you graze his buttocks. I had to add a tantalizing kiss at the end of that move, just at his coccyx to spice it up. His score:9.5| My score: 7.3---yeah, yeah, I'm a strict grader.

Package Pump: Where the hell do they get these names from? Jeez! While sitting behind your guy with his knees bent and his legs spread (legs spread= added vulnerability), reach your hands around and trace your fingers along his inner thighs, from his knees to his groin. The skin here is the thinnest on the body and rarely receives erotic attention. After a bit, pump his balls lightly at first and paying attention to how he reacts vary the touch. This felt like I was getting to play a round of tennis or something. His score: 8.9| My score: 7.4...we are getting closer to my fav spots:)

Frisky Finger Lick: Being that licking my own fingers tends to get him pretty aroused, I can imagine what licking his would do. Apparently, fingers are packed with nerve endings too....so just hold the base of your digit of choice, sensually place it against your lips and suck as if you are giving him a bj. I added playing with his nipples as well and I think that might have amped up the score. His score: 8.9 |My score: 9.0

Breast Stroke: I know almost all of us have done this one before. While he's lying on his back, lean over him and run your breasts over his face, shoulders, chest and down the treasure trail, paying attention to his shaft. The pillowy sensation of your bosom coupled with the softness of your skin against his member will drive him wild. I actually enjoyed this one as well and really got into it. His score: 9.1| My score: 9.1

F-Spot Flick: Last but not the least. The frenulum (F-spot) is the tiny ridge of flesh on the underside of his manhood where the head meets the shaft. It's supposedly the most sensitive part of the penis because it has the highest concentration of nerve endings. It doesn't need to be touched with alot of pressure, just a few fast tongue flicks while giving him a BJ. I actually learned this move in during my first BJ talk with the girls, but thanks for the refresher Cosmo. His score: 9.4| My score: 9.5

Of all the moves, I think this is by far my favorite. Can you guess why?

I guess breaking out these moves once in a while if you are in the right position is great and all, but honestly, don't even bother flipping him around, spreading his legs, putting him on his back and then on this stomach again just to get all 6 in a go. Unless of course you plan to test them on him, score them and report back to us.

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Posted by Vixen @ 2:05 AM :: 10 trainees letting it rip!

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Monday, July 03, 2006

Why Hasn't He Called Me?

Yes, I'm still playing hostess. However, one of my favorite bloggettes, Over-educated Nympho, has written an excellent article in which she, with great wit and sassiness, summarizes what we already know. He didn't call because......he really isn't feeling you.

You probably want me to tell you this: He saw you, was smitten with your beauty and charm, asked for your phone number with only the best of intentions, and then one of the following happened—

1) he was so intimidated by your beauty and charm that he was too scared to even do the call-and-hang-up bit, let alone attempt calling and speaking to you, you amazing creature you

2) he lost your phone number (or better yet, one of his buddies who saw him talking to you was jealous/shameless and stole your phone number from his wallet, so you can expect to hear from HIM later with some lame story about why you don’t remember him, something about a friend of a friend of a cousin remembered you had been neighbors twenty two years ago or yada yada loada crappa

Read the full article HERE.

Posted by Vixen @ 1:37 AM :: 6 trainees letting it rip!

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