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Thursday, May 31, 2007

On Being Direct

I got this question a while ago from a reader that actually had me thinking. Is being a direct person bad? My gut response was to say no, but then I thought that how many of us are truly, truthfully, painfully honest? It's so acceptable in today's society to use subterfuge and white lies to placate or mislead someone. Even the rhetorical question of "Do these jeans make my ass look fat?" isn't answered directly and truthfully.

Being politically correct or 'nice' has taken the forefront both in media, our lives and society. We have gotten adept at hiding what we truly want to say under layers of innuendo, falsehoods, exaggerations, misrepresentations and flat out lies. The painfully honest people...the real truth seekers and speakers have gotten the tables turned on them as being too direct, forthright, tactless and mean. From politicians to preachers, we've all heard of one scandal after another based on lies and deceit until every one is just another story. Even children are quick to leap into the fray, telling you what they think you want to hear instead of the whole, unvarnished truth.

In relationships everyone hates to be lied to. Some have gone as far to say that they don't want to be with a liar. But before we start pointing fingers at our significant others, perhaps we should look in the mirror first. What lies have you told recently? It could be an excuse on why you were late to work, an exaggeration in a story or even a white lie to make someone feel better. Whatever it is---we all have that element and power in us that instinctively veers us away from the plain unvarnished truth into a gray area thats yet to be defined.

This is one of those areas that we each must examine individually and actually make a concerted effort to eradicate. Because we can only fix this issue first with ourselves. We can't expect an ideal or character trait in our relationships that we are unable to attain on a daily basis. Andrea had this really good list on her blog a while back that stuck in my mind. She called it the A-Game Rules.
1. Think before you speak
2. Always speak your mind, but from your heart
3. Take responsibility for all that you say, and all that you do
4. No untruths…
5. No judgment. Accept that we’re all on different paths and everyone’s path is simply different from your own. Not wrong, not awful or destructive and stupid...just DIFFERENT.
6. Mean what you say and say what you mean
7. Be genuine
8. Aim to please, not hurt or destroy
How did lying become so acceptable in our generation? What is it that we fear that makes lying the easy way to go? Is it possible to live a life without lying? Please let me know your thoughts.

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Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Hot Seat Tuesday

Memorial day for me was spent taking a lovely 4 hour nap and then a 3 hour drive...not necessarily in the same order. I did have delicious meals in between with enough leftovers to take to work 2morrow so I can't complain. In addition, I was able to finish a novel, do my nails and spend quality 1:1 time with the Fiance.

So, how was your Memorial day spent?

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Monday, May 28, 2007

Waiting for the One

I'm putting this up here for all my Bad Girls in Training that have been through rough breakups in the last few months. My sister sent this to me after my last breakup and it was really, truly empowering, inspiring and comforting to me. I hope it can be the same for you.

Find a guy...
who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
who calls you back when you hang up on him.
who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the guy...
who kisses your forehead.
who wants to show you off to the world even if you are in your sweats.
who holds your hand in front of his friends.

Wait for the guy...
who treats you like a princess and puts no other woman ahead of you
who isn't ever afraid or ashamed to tell you he loves you and
whose kiss makes your heart flutter.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you
and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

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Friday, May 25, 2007

I Got the Job!

I got it!!! WOOHOO!! Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah!!!

I just got the phone call and pending work approval, I'm in like Flynn. And they are offering pay commiserate with my previous experience, putting me on the level of a year 4 nurse (when I actually only have 3.5 years backed with 2 years of no nursing, so that's great! I'm so giddy and excited that I don't even know what I'm going to do with myself. I get 4 weeks orientation like I asked, I have to do ACLS all this weekend, which blows but yeah---I got the job!

So thanks for all the positive vibes, they didn't go astray, I got the job!

WOOHOO!!!!!!!!

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Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Done with Sex/Men & Dating: Meet Kelly

What this "comment" boils down to is that I am really beginning to get concerned about my lack of interest in not only men but sex in general. As you know, I went through a rather ugly divorce from the man I considered my soul mate (Sept. will be 2 years.) I'm not hung up on my ex in any way, shape or form but I do find that I miss the connection that we once shared. I don't necessarily miss having that connection with him but just having that sort of connection with another person period.

What concerns me the most (lol, which is why I have read your site for so long) is that I am....used to be a VERY sexual person, I loved sex, adored it and wanted it more than any other woman that I have ever known. Now....and since my divorce I find that my mind rarely even considers sex anymore. Coming from a woman who "pleasured herself" in between sex with my husband, it's rather surprising to me that I now have -0- interest in sex. NONE whatsoever. I can't even remember the last time that sex crossed my mind.....probably the last time that I had time to stop in and read your blog. I also have no yearnings whatsoever to meet, find or date a man.....and no, not a woman either in case that crosses your mind. :o) I don't know if my sexuality is 100% tied up into my feelings for my partner and no partner = no interest but I gotta tell ya....I'm more than a little concerned about this.

Answer: I think it's completely natural to go through phases of your sexuality. Especially after going through a deep breakup and divorce. The period after divorce is actually one of mourning, it's almost like someone died in your family. You lived with someone that you thought was your soul mate for several years, loved him, planned your life with him and had that vision completely shattered. Not only that, but the events after the divorce were ugly enough to leave a bitter taste in your mouth about men in general. I'm not advising you to wallow in your bitter feelings---but accept this phase as completely natural.

Part of the survival technique post breakup/divorce is to focus your mind and priorities on other elements so that you don't have to dwell in the pain of the broken relationship. Your mind has turned to survival mode. You've turned your focus to your career in nursing school as well as the kids and this is a healthy shift. There isn't anything wrong with where you are at. Some of your friends might argue that it's been long enough and for you to move on already---but you can only move on when you are completely ready to do so. We can't use other peoples yardsticks to measure our lives. Your mind, soul, body, heart and spirit all must fully heal and when that happens, the shift will reoccur and all your sexy crazy coolness will come right back.

I believe that all elements are combined together and work together as a whole. So if your sexy is fine and your heart still isn't, there is going to be a disconnect. There is nothing wrong with you...nothing at all. Just keep doing you and relax...the Goddess is still there, she's just in hibernation for a while. She'll come roaring back to life soon and then you'll be humping poles and stuff;)

Good luck.

To the room: Has anyone else experienced this post breakup/divorce? What did you do to get over it? Have you gotten over it? Did the Goddess come back better than ever?

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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Hot Seat Tuesday

Okay, since I'm on the whole interview tip, here's the question for today.

What is the greatest interview faux pas?

Leave your thoughts after the jump. Have a lovely day people:)

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Monday, May 21, 2007

Job Interview

Remember last week when I was whining (and I use that word most sparingly) about the job interview that I tanked the week I fell sick? Well, today I had another one with a hospital in Oakland on the same kind of unit that I used to work in back East. I had so much angst heading over there because although it's been 2 weeks since the Interview Freeze I still hadn't gotten my confidence back. I actually came back inside the house and almost called to cancel in a fit of nerves but my roomie whipped me into shape and told me to stop being a punk.

Okay...for the most part I'm not a punk. But I hate to feel like I'm an idiot. I consider myself reasonably smart...perhaps even quite intelligent, so when my brain/memory fails me, especially in situations that I should be able to breeze through, I absolutely detest the feeling. I didn't really go into details about how bad the last interview was on here...it was so bad that I came home in tears and ended up bawling all over the Fiance as I mumbled how many times I had screwed up in a 30 minute interview. I still had flashbacks about it all through the day, and the nursing questions keep playing over and over in my head.

Fast forward to today...I KICKED ASS! Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah! *doing booty shake*. There was this calmness that came over me from the moment I stepped into the office until hours later when I stood outside the pavement jumping up and down. I felt no pressure to perform whatsoever, and just talked to the Supervisor about my previous nursing experience and how I would make a good fit into their unit. He asked me far more questions than the last interview, in much more nursing depth than before as well and I nailed each question leaving him more than satisfied. The best part---no eyes boring into my skull. He was so laid back and chill, it made me more relaxed.

"Why should I hire you?" he asked me towards the end of the interview.

"Because I'm fabulous!" was my first response, which I later segued easily into a list of great reasons. This was the best interview I'd ever had.

He introduced me to the other nurses working that day as Vixen, a registered nurse that will be working on their unit sometime in the near future. Say what?

Oh yeah. He told me twice during the course of the 85 minute interview that he likes me and plans to offer me a position. He is checking my references and then will forward my info directly to HR for a direct hire. This means I skip going to HR to beg for a job from the hospital, this time the hospital is coming to me. It doesn't get much better than that.

Take that, mean lady boring holes into my head with your horn rimmed glasses and PMS-ey attitude. You just lost out on hiring a great nurse. Actually---you just lost out on hiring a fuckin' fabulous nurse.

Boo-yah.

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Saturday, May 19, 2007

Blog Date

I finally took the plunge and met my first real life blogger! Hey---I've been blogging since 2005 but still haven't met anyone. I eschewed the blogging conventions because they were all too far away or not my subject matter. Teri just moved about 40 minutes from my neck of the woods and we finally met up today for lunch.

It was so fun! From her blog and comments, I knew that she would be funny but I didn't envision such witty conversation mixed with frank honesty. She really has such a great view on life; I learned soooo much! We had fun driving around my neck of the woods looking for the *right* restaurant for our blog date. We finally found this exquisite Japanese restaurant in the corner that I would never have noticed if she wasn't with me. The food was totally delish, and she introduced me to tempura, which is now one of my favorite ways to eat veggies!

Anyway, for a first blogger meet, it went great. She set the bar high....way high, so hopefully if I ever meet anyone else they will live up to it. Thanks for coming down Teri, and hopefully we'll be able to hook up again:)

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Friday, May 18, 2007

The Benefits of Sex

I got this joke in my inbox and simply had to share it with you guys. For everyone who has complained or said that sex wasn't a good thing, this is to you.

Did you know that you can tell from the skin whether a person is
sexually active or not?

1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women
make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.

2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering
dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.

3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that
romantic dinner.

4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and
tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!

5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.

6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually
active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!

7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE
EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.

8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages
saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that
causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release
the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.


10. A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural
antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.

Now, go and participate in a passionate romp. It's for the good of your health, you know;) Have a great weekend peoples.

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Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Myspace Ho's & the Objectification of Women

I ended up in a heated debate today over the fact that women on Myspace (and other social websites) put their overly sexual, skanky, slutty, nasty ass pictures on their profiles in the guise of garnering attention and comments from men. STOP FUCKING DOING THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW!! You are totally misrepresenting yourself and adding to the objectification of our gender. Not only that but think of all the fucking perverts that have right clicked your picture and have in saved in their computers for them to jack off too whenever it suits them. Eeeeeew! The internet is called the world wide web for a reason and do you honestly want half-naked/naked pictures of yourself floating around for all and sundry to see? What if you end up in a high level position, become a celebrity...become a Mom and those pictures resurface where you least expect them? What are you going to do then?

I know some of you will argue that you are a model looking for work and need to show off your body...but sticking your ass out in a pic isn't necessary. Okay, perhaps it's a gross oversimplification to catergorize all women that do this as a Myspace Whore, however putting your regular pics online is one thing---putting photos in lewd poses, suggestive labeling, wearing nothing but a strip of floss you call a bikini and a smile is going way too far.

The male stance is that the pictures are up there so what if they take a peek? There is nothing wrong with them ogling, leaving suggestive comments and flirting with the girls. They are just giving them the attention that these women so desperately seek. My friend actually claimed that he was an innocent victim of shameless pandering. Something along the lines of, "I'm just online minding my own business, and I keep getting requests and links to these girls pages." He then went on to state that it's stuff like this that leads to the objectification a la what's going on in hip hop videos today. "You women are the cause of it...stop throwing the power of your pussy in our face...."

Okay I admit the Power of the Pussy. However I don't acknowledge that men are animals led by the pure instinct to rut or ruled primarily with their dicks. I'm sure there is a large percentage of guys on Myspace that don't even pay attention to the Myspace Ho's but I can tell it's not the majority. I'm sure that if there wasn't the market for it...such a high population of the Myspace Ho's would exist.

It's not just on Myspace either....no! This perversion exists in every strata of life today as we know it...from young children in elementary school that dress too sexy for their ages all the way up to the media. We even exhibit it in our choice of clothes, opting for outfits that are way too revealing and leave nothing to the imagination. Modesty isn't just a word you know.

I don't accept is the fact that we as beautiful, strong, fabulous Women sell out for a quick fix of a stranger validating that we are hot. What is so wrong in your real life that you need the constant attention from men? Why are you so damn insecure that you don't even realise that you are pretty much turning tricks online for compliments? When are you going to realise that power...true power comes from within your own mind and that you have the power to carve your future and how people perceive you the moment you step out of bed?

We are so much better than this. We complain that we want a guy to value our mind and heart as well as our bodies and yet when put to the test so many of us fail woefully and present our bodies as the main asset. It's like a twisted paradigm that we are all stuck into but hopefully our generation will break the cycle instead of falling deeper into the abyss of sexual depravity. Be a woman of honor---stop the cycle.

What do you think about this trend? Do you think it will get worse before it gets better? Do you think it will ever get better?


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Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Hot Seat Tuesday

So much for being down in the slumps, it looks like things are looking up. Veeeeery up! I awoke to a possible job offer, a call from an old friend with good news and lots of sex-therapy to revive my flagging spirits. Anyway, as you can see I'm back to my darling, chipper self.

Question of today: If you could do any job in the universe and money was no object, what would it be and why?

For me, I would love to be a professional traveler. OKay, I know, I totally made that up, but think about it, getting paid to travel with no strings attached? Hells yeah! Mainly because I love, Love, LOVE traveling and even though my constitution doesn't favor rapid weather changes, zonked out time zones and long international flights there is something in going somewhere new, especially where the wind may lead that calls me on a consistent basis. I love exploring new cultures and traditions, stunning views from Mother Nature and historic venues. Don't worry, I'll be letting you know when I'm in your neck of the woods. Note this especially to the East Coast peeps, I'm coming out shortly.

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Monday, May 14, 2007

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

My boyfriend of almost two years approached me and told me that he had met someone and there was a "spark type thing". Actually he had been acting weird so I interrogated it out of him. I broke up with him because I didn't feel like it was fair to me. I know that he loves me, and he acknowledges that I'm the world to him. I can't imagine not having him. Do you think I made the right decision? I personally have been in the same position, I met a really great guy while my boyfriend and I were dating...nothing ever happened with that guy but there was something there that I could have pursued but I never really had the desire to leave my boyfriend, or ex boyfriend. I initiated and pushed for the breakup because unless he's willing to commit to me and is positive that I'm the only one for him I can't be there and watch him ever wonder what life would have been like had he met this girl when he was single. Any thoughts or advice for a bad girl in training who feels like shit.

Honey...you are being a fabulous Bad Girl all by yourself. I know you must be going through emotional angst, hurt and disappointment right now, but you followed your instincts and trust me, they are serving you well. It's such an awful feeling when the person you want to be with has a 'thing' for someone else. It's more unfortunate that he didn't man up and tell you until you interrogated him, but your sixth sense really did steer you right, something was up with him. I know that it's instinctual to want to hang on to someone especially after a significant amount of time together, but he's in a totally different phase than you are. He's still looking around, with you for the moment until someone 'better' comes along. You on the other hand stated that you want a deeper level of commitment. Obviously the two of you weren't on the same page.

A "Spark Type Thing" as much as he would love to declassify it is a synonym for saying that not only does he have an attraction to this girl, not only does he want to have sex with her....he also feels an emotional connection. Your boyfriend feels an emotional connection to another lady. I don't know if this is an instant spark deal or if it's something that's grown over time, but something is fishy in his story.

I agree with breaking up with him---I would have done the same. I don't want to play second fiddle to anyone's ideal of what their dream partner should be. If I'm not the one for you, then let me free so that I can find the guy who is truly right for me. Remember, an ideal relationship is a reciprocal one, one that exhibits on both sides the ideal chemistry, intensity and emotions that the other person feels as well. If you are more in love with him than he is with you, especially to the level that he has a "spark type thing" with another woman, then you are selling yourself short and should cut ties. My gut feeling is that there is something more to the story about this Spark lady that he's not telling you. You will probably never know, but at least you broke up with him before it got alot worse. I know you are thinking that maybe after Spark Lady is out of his system, he might be ready to settle down with you. That would happen, in an ideal fairy tale, and we all know that life is rarely like the fairy tale. He isn't ready to settle down...and might not be for a loooooooong time.

Kudos to you for thinking with your mind, gut as well as your heart. Hang in there sweets...remember with every relationship, every heartbreak, you are one step closer to being your ideal self and meeting your ideal mate. Now go stock up on some ice cream, your fav breakup jams and rally your girls around. Oh...and here are some other tips to help you along during the next rocky few weeks.

HUGS!


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Saturday, May 12, 2007

You Might Not Want to Read This...

Hey peoples,

This is going to be a totally whiny post, like a I feel like crap and this is why type blog, which I never, ever post on the Bad Girls Guide because when I'm whiny in real life that seems to be enough. But really the last 2 weeks have been a total bust and I'm not loving the month of May very much, it sucks ass!!

This totally blows. I hate getting into a good healthy groove and then it totally gets shot out of the water by something as redundant as pneumonia. I HATE BEING SICK. I absolutely detest it. I have no accessible veins...which pretty much means that my whole stay in the hospital is spent with the nurses/phlebotomists turning me into a pin cushion so then can draw blood and start an IV. I know it's all for my good and everything but like fuck a duck...31 needle sticks in a day tells you that I DON'T HAVE GOOD VEINS SO STOP FUCKING UP THE ONLY ONES THAT I HAVE LEFT.

Sorry, I"m real pissy, like I said, you might want to skip this one.

Moving along, coming home sucks! My house pretty much fell apart when I was sick. I know the Fiance was stressed an all, but that doesn't mean that the daily activities of the house needs to slow to a grinding halt. I don't even want to enter my bedroom because of the behemoth pile of clothes that need to be thrown into the wash. Fortunately, my darling sis paid the bills while I was away so I don't have to worry about any of that...at least for the next week or so. There is NO FOOD TO EAT! Coming from a place that serves crappy 'balanced' meals 3 times a day, it's hard to come home to eat nothing. Ugh!

In addition, he has to go out of town the day after I come back from the hospital--which does not bode well for me if I have a relapse or something. I miss him soooo much! I barely got to spend that much time with him while I was sick due to visiting hours conflicting with his work schedule and now he goes out of town!!! Grrrrrr!

I don't even want to think about all the stuff that needs to get done but I have no energy to do and no man to direct to do them. I just want to curl up on the sofa, hide under the covers and wait for Monday when my life should return to normal. Who says escaping in 100+ hours of television, tons of junk food and a gab fest with the best bud doesn't make one feel better?

Moving right along, I had a job interview a few days before I fell ill and I totally tanked. I know that I kicked myself out of the running when I totally choked and couldn't answer basic nursing questions that you should be able to answer automatically except for the fact that you've been out of nursing for almost 2 years and didn't do no brush up whatsoever. I bombed so bad that I could feel the boss lady burning holes through me. I knew I wasn't going to get it---even though I really, really wanted it. Hopefully, I've learned and all my future interviews in the next few days will go down much better.

Okay, I feel much better having written this---I think all the gooey stuff poured itself out. Blogging really is an aphrodisiac.

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Monday, May 07, 2007

MIA

Hey peoples,
I am MIA.
My wonderful body is acting up again and needs to be checked by those overpricely Doctors.

So yeah
This is actually my sister posting this blog post.

I'll be back soon.

Ciao

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Friday, May 04, 2007

The Overnight Bag

Okay, now that I've returned to the land of the living, we can talk about other things besides icky illnesses and popping pills. Here's a question that came in earlier this week from one of the most inquisitive Bad Girls in Training.

What would you consider as the essentials when staying at your man's place with only a little time to grab whatever is closest? I either end up taking to much or too little, any ideas on something quick and simple that i can just store in my car for last minute plans?

The Overnight Bag is something that I used to have trouble with in the past. I had the exact same problem so I'm totally with you on that score.

I do believe that every gal should have an overnight bag readily accessible. You never know where your sexy heels might lead you. Most of these products can be found in travel packs at Walmart or Walgreens to make your overnight bag even smaller. The essentials for me would be:
  1. Toothbrush: You sooooo do not want to end up using his, can you imagine how gross it would be if any of his exes/other women had used the same brush. Ugh! Trying to hide morning breath without a toothbrush is nigh to impossible unless he's stocked with mouthwash.
  2. Fresh underwear: Because you might not find last night's panties....and why waste the time looking for them when you could be doing so much more interesting activities?
  3. Tampon/pad: Because Aunt Flo chooses the most inopportune moments to intrude.
  4. Condoms/birth control: Because protecting yourself is your own sweet priority.
  5. KY Jelly: Because having your own is more hygienic for the Pussy.
  6. Lotion: I recommend something that smells fresh & sweet but is still a full body moisturizer. Some people like to bring their own shower gel, but I'm not that finicky so it would be up to you.
  7. Washcloth: Because very few guys have them and even less have them clean. So throw one in just to be on the safe side.
  8. Make up remover/what's that other stuff y'all put on your face?: Ummm, I'm blessed with fabulous skin so I really don't pay attention to all the night cream/pimple reducing/facial care stuff. But whatever you usually use to keep your face zit free and fresh, throw it in the bag.
  9. Hair products: Keep this strictly to the basics. A comb/brush, hair wrap, barrette and hair gel/hair cream of your choice. All you are trying to do is make sure your hair is presentable once you emerge from the shower, so slick it into a cute ponytail and you're usually good to go.
  10. Make up: Once again, just the basics. I generally don't do makeup when I'm lounging at home but everyone has their preference. Keep it light and keep it as natural as possible.
  11. Perfume/body spray: Because he likes the fact you smell good. He really really does.
  12. Deodorant/antiperspirant: See above.
  13. Change of clothes: I like to always have a cotton tank top on hand because it can work as a night shirt or a morning shirt and still be hella sexy. Also, try a track suit ala Madonna/JLo style for the next day if you are lounging or just a nice shirt & jeans will do the trick. In addition, I layer my clothes as I'm coming over and wear something new with something old. For instance, I might wear a new flirty top with the same jeans that I wore to come there last night. Throw in a skirt as well if you are dressing it up and some heels if you didn't wear any to come over there. Whatever it is, make sure that it's wrinkle free.
  14. Accessories: I keep the same purse that I came there with. I save my jewelry and try to reuse it if it does with the outfit. If not, I make sure to keep it in the side zip panel of my purse and swap it out with my extra necklace/ring that I keep there. Be sure to leave your precious pieces at home.
  15. Cell phone charger: You might need your phone nice and charged for work the next day.
  16. Magazine/Book: Because you should always have reading material on hand for when he's overly engrossed with his toys/computer/on the phone/work or with his boys. Of course, you could always distract him as a naughty minx would but on occasion, you will need a few minutes over the weekend to regroup & relax. You might as well have something to read while you are at it.
  17. Sexy Optionals: This is where your naughty lingerie, sex toys, games, dice, handcuffs, edible panties fur and lace would fall into. It's really up to you what you throw in here.
That's all I can think of for right now, if anyone else thinks of anything, leave a comment and I"ll add it on. These items will eventually be what gets thrown into your Drawer when you get one at his place so make sure that you have doubles of everything so you don't have to keep shuttling to and fro every other night.

Great question babe, and I"m glad to see that this new boyfriend is working out well. Good luck!

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Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Hot Seat Tuesday

I'm atrociously ill. My last four months of healthy bliss has been interrupted yet again by a sickle cell exacerbation. Don't worry folks, I will return to my darling, spunky self in a few.

So, the hotseat question of the day is:

What was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for you when you were sick?

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Posted by Vixen @ 2:41 PM :: 10 trainees letting it rip!

Talk to Me!

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