Bad Girl's Guide

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Baby Mama Drama part 4: Are all Her Kids Yours too?

Say your man's baby mama has a brood of several children, but only one for your man. Should you automatically extend yourself to all her other kids just because she's his baby mama? Should you invite her other children out when you take yours out? What is the etiquette around this anyway?

This is one of those questions that I have a hard time answering because it's so subjective. There are alot of factors that weigh into the decision. Personally I don't do kids, much less 2 or 3 or more. So having a bunch of brats kiddies over at my crib is so not happening.

The relationship that your man has with his baby mama factors in as well. If he's cool with her, then it might be a possibility. If she's a crazy psycho baby mama, stay the hell away from that drama.

Here's what I think. For birthday parties invite her kids. Anything else---count them out unless your man specifically wants them along. Remember that you are both responsible for her kids when they are in your custody, so if anything goes wrong you can be held liable. And trust me, when the kids are running amok at the supermarket and you tell them to be quiet and they say, "You are not my mommy," you will be tempted to deck them and wipe that smirk off their face. But you can't and have to restrain yourself gritting your teeth.

At least you know with your guy he can open a can of discipline if needs be, but heaven knows how the other kids act in public. Personally I would stay away from that palavar. So to the answer to your question---if her kids are all yours too, the answer is no. You don't owe her anything more than loving the one (or 2) kids she has with your man.

And this is reason #294 why most women stay away from a man with baby drama.


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