Friday, April 17, 2009
Answer to Rebound Girl
Okay this is the abbreviated version of yesterday's emotional saga. If you want to read it in it's entirety, just check out the previous post!Question: I'm the rebound girl hopelessly in love with a guy that is back with his ex-girlfriend. We tried to be friends but it's hurting me more. I'm still in love with him and want him to come back to me. I don't know what to do...
Wow! That is a lot of drama for a freshman girl! It makes me wonder when you get time to study. Why are you wasting your time on this guy? What is it about you that makes you feel that this is the best you can do?
The whole time I was reading your message I kept thinking, this girl needs to empower herself. Get some perspective. You are FRESHMAN IN COLLEGE! You are young and beautiful and healthy and you will have other men that will come around and break your heart but then you will have those that you yourself will break their hearts.
This is not the time in your life to be pandering after someone else's used
products. He's obviously still in love with his ex/girlfriend. He is with the woman that he really wants...and you? You're the ego boost. I'm not sure what drew you in, his neediness or his aloofness, but one thing for sure is that you need to think about what it is about you that attracts you to these kind of men. You also need to evaluate your sense of self worth.
What I would suggest is to turn off your phone when he calls you, don't respond to emails or text messages. It will be hard at first but over time you will get better at it. Then move on with your life. Explore and enjoy being single and sexy. Hang out with your girls more and get pampered. Make some new friends and buckle down in school. Avoid the drama that this man is clouding your life with. Enjoy being single and young. These are the best times of your life!
Once you leave college, you are out in the real world, where you have to worry about 401Ks, mortgages, kids and of course men! Don't squander these precious moments of living la vida libero loca
(the crazy free life) on some guy...enjoy it with people that matter and are worth it. He is definitely not worth it. He likes the emotional ego boost you give him, the drama, and of course the fact that you are fighting over him. He is old enough to know how to play you and you are just a pawn on his chess board.
Listen to your friends and fam, he totally is not worth it.
Further reading: On Being the Rebound Girl
Posted by Vixen @ 8:36 AM ::
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