Sunday, November 12, 2006

More About Booty Calls

Okay, so my friend and I both have booty calls but we both are sitting in different situations. We need some clarity on the rules. Can you call everyday just to talk? If he stays over is that a booty call? Can you sleep with other people or if you don't then does that mean that you are headed into a relationship? How long can a booty call last?

It sounds like your friend and you both have differing opinions. First of all, have you read THIS and THIS post?

In every situation, there can be a different set of boundaries for booty calls. The first rule of having a booty call is that it's 'no strings attached' sex. Which means, no strings whatsoever in any shape or form. If you are one of those women that her heart follows where her body leads, then this might be a difficult scenario for you.

So knowing that this is the first fundamental rule of having a booty call, why would you call him everyday to chat with him? Why create a friendship outside the boudoir when you are using each other purely for sex? Why are you setting yourself up for heartbreak?

Here's the deal---the more you interact with someone, the greater the sense of attachment that you will have. So, if you talk to him everyday and hang out with him socially, you are forming attachments. Attachments lead to a crush and then you are heading down the "I'm in love with my booty call but he doesn't want me for anything other than sex" zone. And you know where that goes--yep, Heartbreak-ville.

I believe that having him spend the night is another string of attachment. The more time you spend with him, the closer you two will get. That's why it's advisable to keep a booty call strictly about the booty. Get your physical needs taken care of and then bounce.

Sure, it's convenient and comfortable to snuggle up together and fall asleep, but while you are snuggling, remember that your body is equating this bonding with the type of feelings and hormones that you would get from spending the night with your boyfriend. Are you forming an attachment by spending the whole night with him? Yes.

Now sleeping with other people---that's a more grey area. It depends on you and how you want to approach your relationship. I strongly feel that in this day and age, sexual scenarios should be strictly monogamous. Mainly because research has proven that the more people you have sex with, the more STDs you are exposed to. Using the formula that everyone has slept with at least 5 people, if you multiply all your lovers by 5 and then his by 5, and keep multiplying by 5 (for every five each of those people slept with) until you reach a statistical ratio that satisfies the formula--yep, that's how many sexually active people you've come in contact with. And there is no way in hell you can guarantee to me that all of those 5146+ people had protected sex 100% of the time.

However, you should conversely bear in mind that you can't expect fidelity from your booty call. Monogamy, as strongly as I suggest it, is a string. And this over-rules the definition of a booty call. It's really up to both of you what you decide. Being monogamous doesn't mean that you are in a relationship. No matter what you do, make sure that you stay protected AT ALL TIMES! It's 2006 sista girl and there is no excuse for not ensuring that his dick is wrapped up. Stay safe and smart!

As to the length of a booty call, it can last as long as you both can keep it up. Usually, within a few months, one of the parties ends up ending the relationship for sundry reasons. The most common are that one of you found someone else, decides to move on or one of you started getting clingy/needy or the drama was getting to you.

I hope this clarifies a few things for you.
Your thoughts?

Labels: All About Sex, Booty Calls

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