Thursday, November 09, 2006

Taking Charge in Bed

The media and society have propelled sexual empowerment for women rapidly ahead in the last decade. I remember a time when it was taboo for a woman to seek out a man purely for a sexual encounter however now we have definitions, boundaries and tips for everything from a casual one nighter to a regular fuck buddy.

Guys have always been cast in the role of the assertive aggressor in the relationship. He's usually the one the initiates sex either by asking for it, seducing you and sometimes practically commanding you to his behest. Women on the other hand in the past have been known to be more submissive. More traditional roles even place a woman as lying stoically on the bed like marble while she completes her 'wifely duty'--(yeesh!)

Thank goodness times have changed. And changed drastically they have. Morph into Samantha from Sex and the City and actively take charge of your orgasms, your libido, your passion and your sex life. C'mon, we've all heard over and over again how guys say that they want 'a lady on the street but a tigress in bed.' Be the tempting siren.

You don't have to feel shy or embarrassed in dragging him to your lair to have your wicked way with him. You can suggest, seduce and flirt to your hearts content. In fact, 91%% of men report that they totally love it when their lady initiates sexual play.

Don't be afraid, take the lead. Don't let any hold you back. If you want it---go after it with a passion that expresses all your feminine urges. Here are some saucy tips to get you started.

• Grabbing him and planting a searing kiss on his lips as soon as he comes through the door, followed by a hot and heavy makeout session---followed by, whatever your daring heart desires.
  
• Whipping off his belt/pants/boxers faster than he can say Jack Robinson, then heading down south to actually enjoy pleasing your man.
  
• Whispering naughty innuendos to him while in public sends his brain into overdrive.
• Heading to the ladies room to remove your sexy undies and slipping them to him with a seductive smile.
• Initiating role play and sexy toys into your repertoire. Let's not leave it just up to him to keep things interesting---do an equal part in spicing things up.
• Ask what his ultimate sexual fantasy is. Then enact it complete with props and attitude.
• Try something new, a new position, technique or place that you wouldn't normally go for.
  
• Erotic messages via phone, notes or email throughout the day are enough to make him wanting you the moment he sets eyes on you again.
  

You know you want it. And you know you want it good. Seek it, claim it and attain it. Good loving!

Your thoughts?

Labels: All About Sex, Foreplay

Posted by Vixen @ 2:58 AM :: 4 trainees letting it rip!

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