Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Sharing Too Much Information
Communication is one of the founding stones of a solid relationship. However, in certain instances, should you filter what you tell your significant other? Are there some topics that are taboo to share? Or do you describe in graphic detail every single moment of your dating history? Do you subscribe to the idea that he should know every single itty, bitty indiscretion in your past?
Depending on the guy, there are some things that he might be able to hear and understand without it adversely affecting your relationship in any way. Not all dirty secrets should be kept. After all, sharing secrets builds intimacy, and that gives you a stronger relationship overall.
However at the same time, there are things that you absolutely have to tell him in order for him to understand where you are coming from and how to relate to the relationship. Because every single past experience you have had in your life has forged you into the person you are today. They are like building blocks, one right on top of the other from the first guy that pulled your hair in grade school to the last guy you messed around with before you got serious with him. And every single experience is relevant in creating the woman he fell in love with, the fabulous woman that you are.
Some guys totally flip out whenever they here certain details about your past. Remember the reality show, Average Joe
, when the guy who won ended up breaking with her 'cos she dated Fabio in her past? Or in Sex & the City
when that guy called Samantha slutty 'cos she had slept with gazillions of more men than he could ever sleep with women?At the same time, women have been known to be prone to sharing too much information too early in a relationship.
We love to gab and bond, spilling secrets and confidential facts with wild abandon. Especially things that are too personal or none of his bloody business. This obviously scares guys away. I mean, come on, he doesn't need to know all your business on the first date....or even in the first three, or even in the first 3 months of your new relationship. But if you are in it for the long haul there are some important data that you will need to spill.
The next couple of posts will examine what to share...and what not to.
Labels: Relationship issues
Posted by Vixen @ 11:45 PM ::
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