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Friday, August 18, 2006

Why Get Married?

My mother got married when she turned 25. My grandmother when she was 20. However, here I am, way past my mom’s age and not even thinking about marriage. Why is it that couples and singles of our generation are foregoing marriage for cohabitation and long term relationships?

The institution of marriage was always one that was hyped from the moment you realised that boys were cool too. As kids I remember playing dress up and thinking of my wedding day with high hopes of getting hitched in my 20s. However, the closer I get to 30, the more I’m thinking that there isn’t a rush.

With the high and ever increasing divorce rates, marriage doesn’t seem like such a blissful happily ever after state. 50% of marriages now end in divorce. Fifty percent! And that number is still on the rise. No wonder Quarterlifers are scared of the altar.

In addition to that, our civilization has given us the tools to simulate married life without the “till death do us part” section. Couples can have bank accounts together, buy houses together, live together, all without even a trip to the altar. The convenience of cohabitation is there as well as the thought that in the back of our minds, if things don’t work out, we can always pack up and leave–no fuss, no muss.

Add to that our generation is living a more independent lifestyle than previous generations. Women are making big bucks, getting promotions and are able to adopt children/get pregnant without a man even in the mix. This also detracts from the draw of the wedded state.

There is also so much that we want to do as independents…travel, move cross country, get a post-graduate degrees, start-up our own business and just live carefree lives without adding the whole responsibility of someone else on our hands.

We know just from watching TV & our parent’s generation that marriage isn’t easy. But somehow, the other 50% who aren’t divorced manage to make it work.

Perhaps there’s hope for us after all.

Your thoughts?

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