Thursday, March 02, 2006
In my studies on pain, I have come to realize that everyone has a different threshold for pain. For some, a pain level of 6 might be bearable, while for another person, 6 is excruciating enough that they want meds instantly to put them out of their misery.
Keeping this in mind, as women we also have different levels that we can take. Some of us will internalize and bear alot more, put up with ALOT more bullshit that other women wouldn't even stand for. This doesn't mean that we are weaker or stronger, it just means that our thresh-hold is different.
At times, you and your lady friends may not even have the same Dealbreakers
. So if she is okay with the guy acting a certain way that you think is utterly distasteful, ultimately, it is her
man and you might have to back down.
I've seen relationships where the lady has borne so much pain and humiliation in the guise of love and steadfastness, and the first thought that comes to my mind is Hell no, that can never be me!
This doesn't mean that I'm better or smarter than her, it just means that my thresh-hold is different. Eventually, even the more stalwart and stoic ladies will reach a point when they crack and say enough is enough.
You have to bear in mind that your friend must come
to on her own to the decision that this wanksta is not worthy of her affection.
Now I'm not saying that you should allow your friend to stay in shark infested waters without trying to rescue her, but I think that if she is not ready to leave the dirtbag --she is not going to leave him no matter how much pressure you exert. In this case, you would just have to back down and hope for the best.
Labels: Girl Talk
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