Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Phone Sex

What is your opinion on phone sex? My boyfriend and I are both busy and see each other once or maybe twice a week and generally when we talk on the phone it sometimes gets a little raunchy and he always is up for phone sex but it's really not my thing. I tried it multiple times but it really wasn't enjoyable and i was totally uncomfortable. I'm up for getting freaky anywhere any time but I feel like since we don't see each other that often maybe I should be inclined to phone sex or have a more positive approach to it. So what do you think, and why do guys enjoy it so much?

You would think because they are visual creatures, it wouldn't be an arena that would be stimulating enough for them, but we have found out that's not the case. I think the reason is that men have dirty, dirty minds. They have alot of fantasies and thoughts just swimming in those dirty minds of theirs and no outlet for it. Add the fact your boyfriend doesn't get to see you as much as he would like and so he's needing some kind of outlet. It gets old beating off in the shower by yourself while your girl is unavailable. The situation isn't something that can be avoided, however the physical urges can be alleviated slightly and phone sex is one of the ways to do so.

Masturbating by yourself can get boring after a while. But add in the sultry, sexy voice of the object of your desire and your passion is greatly intensified and amplified. He sees it as a win-win situation, it's as close as he's going to get to have sex with you by having a mutual encounter over the phone. However I do agree that it's hard to get comfortable and enjoy it however if that's not your cup of tea.

Alot of people find actually communicating your erotic thoughts and fantasies to your partner quite challenging. Keep in mind that you should tell him your fantasies as if he was right there. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate or corny, or even over the top freaky---just you, telling him that you wish he was here and what you would like him to do to you if he was and what you would do to him if he was. He wants to be with you but he can't. So you are trying to alleviate his distress. That's all there is to it.

My suggestion for you would be to either write out your erotic thoughts and read it to him, or choose a book or erotic poem that is scintillating enough to get his juices flowing without putting you on the spot. Read slowly and provocatively, drawl your words, act it out, insert sound effects and moans. All he wants is the sound of your voice and the illusion of being intimate with you. It's not as good as the real thing, but it's enough to tide him over until you see him again and rip all his clothes off.

In addition, you could introduce a webcam into the mix. Instead of only just talking to him, you can do a strip tease for him over the computer. This might be enough for him and will make you feel more involved. It might even get your juices flowing. Incorporate lingerie, soft lighting, foods like chocolate and bananas into the mix to amp it up.

If you need more convincing, head over to the Mistress Lounge. She has written a very titillating post on cross country phone sex with her lover and how rewarding it was for both of them. Check out Telephone Tryst pt. 1, & Telephone Tryst pt. 2.

If you could move your schedules around a bit more to see each other, that would be fantastic on both ends. Have you tried spending the night over at his place? That's like 2 nooky sessions in less than 8 hours;) You could do alternating nights, and that way end up seeing each other every other day. That might help a tad and cut down on the phone sex.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

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